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Staying out of the house except for bathrooms

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    Brianalaura    August 14, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    We're having our wedding in the backyard of my fiance's grandparents house.  Instead of getting outhouses, his grandparents insisted the guests just use the bathrooms inside.  However, I want to avoid people traipsing throughout the house during the wedding except to use the bathrooms.  We'll be making a couple of quick announcements during the ceremony, can you think of a polite way to ask people to refrain from using the house except for the bathrooms?  I'm not going to go crazy over this, and if people do it I can't exactly stop them, but I'd like to just say "hey, the house is for bathrooms, not for hanging out in".  Suggestions?

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Do your grandparents know there are some nice outhouses?

    How big is your wedding? i doubt your grandparents' plumbing can handle a ton of people using it multiple times! For the cost of toilet paper, you can rent a nice luxury outhouse =P

     
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    oracle    October 23, 2010   Los Angeles

    Is there a way you can string ribbon to block access to rooms or certain areas?

     
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    Brianalaura    August 14, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    @ejs - they've had parties at their house as big as our wedding before so I'm not too concerned about the plumbing.  The nice outhouses are more expensive than I thought!  Plus although it's a big backyard, there isn't really a place to put them.

    @oracle - I hadn't thought of that, that's a really good idea.  They have a lot of doors to rooms too so I think if we turn off the lights and close the doors to rooms that might help.

     
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    charismaclassic    May 29, 2010   Greeneville, TN

    If you can't go with the nicer outhouses as an option, I think oracle has the right idea - tastefully block off everything but the paths to the bathroom.  You might also make a sign reminding guests not to loiter inside the home. 

     
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    Penguingal06    August 21, 2010   Jax

    I think you should look into nice outdoor restroom facilities. We do this every year for our family reunion and have never had a problem. I know a family reunion is probably far more casual than a wedding, but they have some amazingly nice ones that would be appropriate for a wedding too.

     
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    Brianalaura    August 14, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    @charisma - thanks for the suggestions!

     
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    caszos    June 2010   Florida

    I agree to close as many doors as possible (even lock them if need be).  Also, I have seen people move a couch or something to the entrance of the living room so the room is essentially "blocked" off. 

     
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    Rgeddy    June 13, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    Maybe re-arrange a few pieces of furniture in spaces where people might migrate... like infront of the living room or next to the bathroom blocking the hallway.

    Maybe include signs like "staff/caterers only", "food prep, no guests allowed", "wedding party/bridal party only".

    Also making your rents or wedding party informed will let them spread the info by word of mouth day of.

     
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    Brianalaura    August 14, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    I think my only concern is that to get to the one bathroom you have to go through a sort of living room, so I'm just worried people will go in there and stay.  But it won't hold that many people and there will be no bar down there, so hopefully they won't be too tempted!  :-D

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    You could always make a pathway to the bathroom and line it. I'd at least consider putting down some plastic on their carpets maybe.

     
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    Goldilocks1107    September 2010   Madison, WI

    Maybe remove the furniture from that one room - that way there's no reason for them to linger. No where to sit = keep on moving!

     
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    shaydenise    October 30, 2010  

    I would just say, "Though the reception is hosted outdoors there are restroom are located {inset directions here - i.e. up the stairs to the left} inside the house."

     
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    camrie    September 5, 2010   Louisville

    I'd just put down a runner on the path to the bathroom and rope off along the edges - so it would be more difficult for people to actually go anywhere except the bathroom without climbing over something.

     
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    Ella1978    June 19, 2010   Cleveland, Ohio

    Runners, roping off rooms, signs.. all good ways.  Also, you might want to consider multiple bathrooms for use... as I don't know how big your wedding is, the line could get long, fast, when alcohol is involved.

    One of the bees just posted about her posh outdoor potty.. It was LUX!  I'd look into renting one of those!

     
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    Natakie16    May 2010   WNY

    Yes, along with ribbons, crepe paper or tulle (whatever fits into your decorations) strung along the path, I would definitely put a runner down, especially since you have to go through a living room to get there. It would make the whole idea of not loitering sink in much more. It would also help protect the floor. :)

     
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    VeronicaH    April 24, 2010  

    Wow, so many good ideas! I would get an outhouse as back-up at least. In the wedding planning book I used they specifically talked about disasters when relying on household plumbing, which is something I wouldn't really know about but I prefer to learn from their mistakes.

    Rope off the path and put signs on doors that staff may need access to (or may leave open as they come and go). A runner is a good idea, but may cause people to slip, so be extra careful. The ribbons/tulle can be really pretty and carry your theme through the house, while guiding your guests.

     
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    Daisylynn    August 22, 2010   Monterey, California

    Close the doors or tie the rooms off with ribbon and having the bridal party remind people throughout the event should be good.  Make sure you have a plumber on call for any emergencies that might arise!!!

     

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