Post # 1
FI and I are having a destination wedding next summer.Â Due to very limited space from our venue, we can only have about 100 ppl and limiting our A list ppl to our family and closest friends only. Â Due to the space issue, FI wanted to keep things hush hus for as long as possible and send out invites around Mar./April.Â We haven’t ever formally announced our engagement (sort of backwards situation) but the word has already spread and people want to book airline reservations.Â Â
I even had a dream that a group of my friends were offended that I hadn’t formally told them we were geting married and were upset since they thought it was a snub and that they might not be invited (not the cas).Â I know it’s just a dream, but I really think we need to send STD cards now.
Sooo… since it’s the holidays, do you think it’s OK to send STD/Holiday cards combined?Â Or is it confusing and inappropriate?Â And how would we word the cards?Â Also is it okay to send STD only to our "A" list guests?
TIA for advice and suggestions!
Post # 3
i think that’s a great idea!! i’m having a destination wedding too next summer and i hadn’t even thought of that but maybe? i’m getting married in tennessee in the smokies and we live in southern california and the wedding’s not until july so i think it may be too early for me but maybe not?? when are you getting married?? i really like that idea personally! plus, it’s cost effiecient and you save money on stamps!
Post # 4
You certainly only need to send STD’s to the "A" list guests. In terms of sending around the holidays, piperbenjamin wrote the same question on the boards about 2 weeks ago. If you scroll back about 5 pages, you can read comments there. Hope that helps.
Post # 5
thanks – i found the previous post.Â very helpful.
Post # 6
I think it’s fine, and even nice to send STD’s with your holiday cards. And you can ONLY send STD’s to your A list, absolutely. Consider STD’s an invitation – you can always invite people who didn’t get a STD but you MUST invite everyone who does.
Post # 7
just keep in mind that a lot of people hang up their christmas cards, and with family at eachothers houses, a uninvitee may see your x-mas STD in plain veiw…… just a thought…..
Post # 8
You could put STD inserts in the christmas cards of the A list people…even do it as a cute little note about wishing them a happy holiday season and looking forward to a more summery climate when you will be celebrating with them at your wedding, etc.
If you do inserts, though, just be very careful as you’re stuffing envelopes that you’re sending them to the right people!