Post # 1
Ok, I keep getting mixed answers from people I seek advice from, so I decided to turn to the trusty hive!!
FI and I got our e-pics done and are able to see the proofs (unfortunately I dont have them on my computer yet, waiting on cd from photog so I cant post any). I absolutely love them and we decided well before getting them done we were going to do a photo STD. My FAVORITE pic from the session is a kissing pic, is this ok to use on a STD?? I’ve showed a few people, but want it to be a surprise to most which photo we choose. The people who have objected to the kissing photo love the actual picture but say we should show our faces on the STD. And the design I want to use only uses one photo. So should I go with a picture I like that shows our faces? Or go with the one I love where we are kissing? My only other concern is how conservative FMIL and FFIL are. I don’t think they would ever verbalize that they didnt think the photo was appropriate, but they might think it. We arent by any means shoving our tongues down each others throats its a typical cute kissing pic. Help please!
Post # 3
I struggled with this same issue and ended up choosing one that showed our faces because of the conservatives in our families. We also wanted them to feel comfortable if they wanted to display our picture.
You could always have the kissing one enlarged and show it at your reception.
Post # 4
My mom talked me out of using my favorite e-pic for our save the dates because she said it didn’t show enough of our faces. I really regret not using that pic. The pic I used was really nice… It just wasn’t my favorite one. I figure, if you’re coming to my wedding HOPEFULLY you know what we look like and won’t care if you can’t see our entire faces in the picture. Plus, it’s your wedding!! Pease use the picture you love the most, regardless of what other people think!!!!!
Post # 5
I’d say go with your gut and use the one you love most here. The save the date has your names on it, so it’s obvious WHO you are. My guess is that a handful of people will be slightly put-off by it, but that most people won’t.
Post # 6
I know everyone one we are inviting knows us, so I’m not concerned with that so much, I just don’t want the conservatives to be offended. Ugh I’m so torn. Thanks for your advice so far everyone!
Post # 7
Wait.. so people really get offended by seeing pictures of other people kissing? I’ve never heard of this before!! Is it a regional thing? I get offended when I see people wear very revealing clothing or use foul language… but kissing pictures? Really?
Post # 8
MaggieGirl– I just know my FMIL and FFIL are very conservative. I love them to death, but we have completely different views, and I know they would be a little put-off if we chose a kissing photo. I know they would probably never vocalize it, but I know they would probably rather us choose a picture of our faces, simple and conservative. I’m a people pleaser, and while I know I can’t please everyone, I’m still trying to consider everyone.
Post # 9
I steered clear of picking a photo of us kissing for those same reasons. We are only sending STDs to people out-of-state and they are mostly his relatives. I didn’t want them to be offended AND, since they aren’t close relatives, they don’t even know what we look like! So the safer option is to have a picture that shows our faces. I’d put your favorite photo on the cover of the engagement album or something if that’s an issue.
Post # 10
We just ordered Save-The-Dates and we used the one of us kissing. It’s our favorite picture and it represents us. I never thought anyone would mind until I saw this post. If anyone doesn’t like it, oh well…They are already ordered.
At least we’re happy!
Post # 11
Could you order two different STD’s? A more conservative STD for the FFIL & FMIL and other people you are unsure about? And then ‘the kissing STD’ (lol) to send to people you know will not be offended?
Post # 13
Um, I don’t really understand people getting offended by a picture of me and the fiance kissing…but maybe it’s a regional thing? Maybe just go with your gut!
Post # 14
You could do one with multiple pics, including your kissing pic but have the focal pic be a non-kissing pic. That’s what we did!