(Closed) STD mess up

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you have to invite her now, unless you’re okay with never associating with her again, which is what will happen if you uninvite her. but if she has professional ties to you, that could be a very bad idea.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Knowing she is mega-drama, I’d just suck it up and keep her on.  From what you’re saying it sounds like she might go bananas and make it worse for you if you were to dis-invite her.

Post # 5
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46153 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Accidents happen- most of them have consequences. The consequence here is that you have to invite her.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Since she got the Save the Date, you now have to invite her.

I know it’s not what you want to do, but it would be completely rude to not invite her and would probably result in way more drama then it’s worth.

Just suck it up, invite her, and hope she declines.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah, I agree with everyone–you gotta invite her. It’s too late. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

shoulda coulda woulda, but you sent her the STD. unless she does something heinous between now and August I think you’ve gotta invite her.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

invite her! there is no other way out of this

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Invite her and move on.  Given her drama queen status, I don’t think she’d take well to a well-meaning explanation of the mix-up.  Sorry you are in this situation!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I gotta agree with other posters and say you must invite her now since you sent her a STD.  Hopefully she declines!

Edit: well, hopefully she hangs out with her date the whole time and you barely have to see her!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think you need to consider her side before you say anything. You just got invited to your friends wedding and suddenly she says oh yeah….your not invited.

I think you either deal with her there or stop being her “friend” it doesn’t really sound like you are her friend anyway.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It’s funny, I posted a thread a couple weeks ago about not wanting to invite someone I had sent a STD to, because she’s annoying and we haven’t spoken in like a year (because she’s annoying).  A lot of people suggested I not send her an invite, and just wait to see if she says anything.  But I couldn’t do it – she hadn’t done anything horrible, and I just felt too bad about essentially uninviting her.  I think you’re in the same position, unfortunately.

If you want to lessen the chance of her coming, you could always invite her without a date (unless she’s married or engaged), but I think you’re pretty much stuck with her.  Sorry.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Lol @ “Unless there’s a Phish conflict….” haha!

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Sorry but I agree with PP’s. Invite her. In the end you wont notice her there anyway! You will be too busy being a newlywed!

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