Post # 1
OK, stay with me on this…
This past April, our friend and her husband separated. They’re best of friends and are still “roommates” in their apartment. They have six months left on their lease and still act as a cohesive “couple,” basically acting as they have, but not has husband and wife.
When we plan on sending out our Save-The-Date Cards, in June/July, we were intially going to send them to “Mr. and Mrs. Last Name.” We aren’t friends, per say, with our friends’ husband, so how would we now address the STD?
Then, since we don’t know if they’re going to be living together by the time we send out the invitations, would we put a +1 for her regardless if they’re living together or not, since if we do, she’d probably bring him, as she brings him to all social functions.
So, the two questions are: how to address the Save-The-Date Cards and when the time comes, the wedding invitations?
Post # 3
I would Invite her and “family” whatever that happens to be at the time of the wedding
Post # 4
@Jamie42003: Would you mind clarifying that? I’m a little confused.
Post # 5
Why don’t you just call her and ask what she would prefer?
Post # 6
I’d call and ask her how she’d like her save the date and wedding invite addressed. If you’re not wanting him to show up I’d def not put his name on it unless she wants you to. She could end up feeling obligated to bring him and if they’re not really together that could be awkward.
Post # 7
I would invite your friend plus guest and let her decide.
This is crazy that she still brings her husband to social functions even though they’re separated. Normally separated people can’t stand each other.
Post # 8
I feel like an idiot for asking, but what is an STD? WHen I saw the post initially, I was expecting a really different situation …possibly involving Valtrex!
Post # 9
@Pixie79: Save the Date.
I would ask her. It sounds like you are closer to her and there’s no telling how she feels about him, despite appearances.
Post # 10
An abbreviation for – Save The Date (STD)
Post # 11
I would skip the STD for this couple. Let her know the date informally and then when you send out invitations and they do not live together you oculd invite her plus a guest.
Post # 12
@PinkMagnolia: In their case, they’ve parted on the best of terms and have basically been functioning more as friends and roommates than husband and wife for nearly a year and a half. They call each other best friends and go to parties and social functions as friends, together. But, she still has his last name and they still live together and, normally, we wouldn’t socialize with her husband since we met him when we met her and we really have nothing in common.