(Closed) STDs with an unfinalized guest list…advice please

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Don’t send any Save the Dates to the B list group. If for some reason you can’t accommodate them, you’re still stuck sending them an invite (per etiquette) and what if they say yes as well?

Post # 4
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@LiliKitty:  +1

Post # 5
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@LiliKitty:  this!  Its not 100% neccessary to send save the dates.  


I also have a feeling that the extra couples would understand that you only have so much room and that obviously your family takes first priority!

Post # 6
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I personally would only send Save-The-Date Cards to the people that you 100% can accomodate. I wouldn’t send them to people on the B list. We had people on our B list and they were almost all local, so there wasn’t a pressing need to get them a STD since they didn’t need to make travel plans.

Post # 7
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t send them to people if there is ANY chance they won’t be invited.  If they are local, just send the wedding invitation if they end up being invited.  1-2 months is usually enough time to make the arrangements if they don’t have to travel far.


Post # 8
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

Is your 75 max due to venue capacity? If so, I wouldn’t overinvite, but since there are usually regrets, you *might* want to send save the dates to everyone. If 75 is your venue max, then just wait it out. Guests always understand that family invites come first.

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