(Closed) Stealing friend's thunder?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Oh whateverrrrr, this whole “stealing thunder” thing is silly. 

I don’t know about you, but I’m at an age where EVERYONE around me is getting engaged. I know like four people who were engaged within about a month of me, and we all were happy for each other and congratulated each other because we’re not fourteen. 

Post # 4
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4525 posts
Honey bee

I think the whole “stealing thunder” thing is petty and so high school. You’re allowed to be happy at the same time that other people are happy. 

Post # 5
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4519 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

He’s not stealing anyone’s thunder at this point — that’s crazy! He was really thoughtful to delay the engagement when he did, but that’s enough — you guys need to get on with your lives, too!

Post # 6
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2421 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I don’t think he is being rude. The only day a bride and groom get is their wedding day. I don’t really understand the whole “you’re stealing their thunder” thing.

Post # 7
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5773 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Is there some kind of algorithm for when it becomes ok again? Like does a certain amount of thunder dissipate every month?

He should not be waiting for these bs reasons

Post # 8
Member
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@LGenz:  Haha, a thunder allowance! 

 

Woops, all the thunder for this month is gone! Better wait til there’s more thunder around for meeee. 

Post # 10
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663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

Bizarre. So how long are you 2 supposed to wait? Till next year so they have this whole calendar year as “their” engagement year? I can sorta understand waiting days and idealing weeks, others would disagree on waiting at all, but now a month isnt long enough… C’mon. Tell these guys to grow up and that no one owns time periods.

@LGenz:  +1

@stillme:  +1

Post # 11
Member
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I never get this “stealing my thunder” kind of thing.

I got engaged within weeks of three other women that I know and I can’t recall a single catty thing said by anyone.

Post # 12
Member
5557 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

I have said this before and I will say it again. Your friend is neither Thor nor Zeus and thus has no thunder to steal.

You should not change your life plans on a friend. They have been engaged for a month. They get the one day for everyone to be excited they are engaged and one wedding day. They don’t get to call dibs on the year. 

Post # 14
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@LadyMonster,@LGenz: LOL!

Post # 15
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598 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Laceymae:  I don’t know who he’s talking to but its sounds like these people are being rediculous. Just get engaged! Its not like he’s proposing at their wedding/engagement party, jeeze. 

Post # 16
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1513 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

they have had more than enough time to bask in their engaged glory… its your turn. they will deal.

i actually would have loved if a good friend got engaged when i did. instead i came home from my engagement to 2 frieds having ended relationships. there was no one to gush with for a long time :/

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