Post # 1
I’m in that stage of life where EVERYONE is getting married. I have 4 other weddings, 2 of which I’m in this year besides my own wedding. This has come up a few times with friends asking permission to steal ideas from each other.
So what do you think, Is it ok to steal ideas from your friends weddings? How do you feel about them stealing ideas from your wedding? Do you feel you have to ask permission first?
Post # 3
I think it depends on what you are stealing. Our friends ‘stole’ our reading, but honestly there are only like 5 biblical readings to choose from so I didn’t really mind. Another friend ‘stole’ our guest book idea, but they told us in a complimentary way so again I didn’t care.
I don’t think we stole anything from anyone else.. everything we did wasn’t necessarily ‘original’, but it was all our own ideas. The only thing I copied from a magazine was our cake decor – but the flavor I came up with on my own. And I’ve still NEVER seen another wedding with our color scheme, including color of flowers and Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. We chose our own vows out of the choices our Rev gave us, not from something we had previously heard. and the logistics of the day just fell into place based on how much time we wanted to allow for things.
Post # 4
Hmmm…. I am looking for a guestbook idea 😉
Post # 5
I agree with moderndaisy that it depends on what you are “stealing.” My husband and I got married first in our group of friends, and many people have already told us what they plan to steal for their own weddings. I take it as a huge compliment!
Post # 6
I wouldn’t care if anyone took ideas from my wedding I see it as a compliment. And I always take note of details at peoples weddings and if I like them I might use them in my wedding. In fact the year of my sisters weddings we had 5 weddings to go to before hers and we actually took notes at every wedding of things we liked/didn’t like. And things she liked we incorporated into her own wedding.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
I don’t know that it’s necessarily stealing unless you are actually reusing something physical. Otherwise every single mass manufactured wedding dress was “stolen”.
Post # 8
I have never stolen from a personal friend. But I have borrowed from other bees!!! =)
So my Maid/Matron of Honor is getting married 3 weeks after me. I got engaged 6 months before her and bought the BMs plum dresses before she was engaged. She loved them. Then after she got engaged she got really upset at me because she wanted her BMs to wear lavendar dresses but felt that she would be copying me. I told her not to worry about it, they were very different shades of purple. I felt bad that SHE felt bad, but technically I got there first. She had never told me that before then.
Post # 9
I “stole” so many ideas from the ‘bee for my sister’s wedding it isn’t even funny…LOL! I thought that was the whole point of this site…to share ideas and get feedback. Now if I had a close friend or relative who wanted to recreate my wedding from the colors to the flowers to the dresses…THAT would be a problem. However, if they saw some specific things that they wanted to incorporate into their day I would be totally fine with it.
Post # 10
I would take it as a compliment! Plus, I have “borrowed” other bees and other wedding bloggers ideas because I think they’re great!
Post # 11
There’s no such a thing as a completely original wedding… just having a wedding in itself is unoriginal.
Post # 12
I don’t understand how you can “steal” from people’s weddings. If one of my friends asked me if they could steal my venue or my colors or my photobooth I would be super confused.
Post # 13
I don’t consider it “stealing” and who is to say they didn’t hear of the idea previously?
Plus I would be flattered if someone who attended my wedding thought something was so awesome that they wanted it at their own! 🙂
Post # 14
I also don’t understand how you can “steal” an idea from a friend’s wedding you have already attended. I think it’s petty to worry about this.
Post # 15
I think everyone on here is pretty much “borrowing” ideas from other brides, right?!
For me personally, I really didn’t borrow/steal many ideas from others. However, a friend of mine that got married a month before me borrowed the table number lumie ideas. She asked if it would be okay and I said sure!
Post # 16
Yeah, I agree with some of the PPs about whether being inspired by someone’s wedding and doing something similar at your own would be considered “stealing”.