(Closed) Stealing Thunder? Hear My Cry

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think this chick is being unreasonable and silly.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

PSH!!

First off, I love your title. Made me click on this thread.

Second, who cares? As has been stated more times than can be counted, you only get ONE day. For example, when my husband proposed, his older brother proposed within a month, AND since EVERYTHING is a competition to his older brother, they squeezed in their wedding before ours too (she also shoved it in a week before the day her younger brother was supposed to get married). And yes, it did steal our thunder. As in, our wedding didn’t matter until their’s was over because their’s came first. But did we both still have beautiful weddings and end up with the person we love most? Yes. So I say, ha! They can’t control your life!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Not at all.  Honestly I think its a little different if two sisters get married close together but there is no reason your BF and his brother can’t have overlapping engagements.  I got engaged 7 months after my brother and got married 5 months after him.  It really wasn’t an issue at all.  As long as the weddings aren’t so close together that it’s inconvenient for family members to attend both then it’s no problem.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

She’s being ridiculous.  The “stealing thunder” thing totally kills me.  You get a DAY.  Not a week, not a month, certainly not a YEAR.  A day.  Waiting a year after brother gets married to get married?  That’s absolutely absurd.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

People don’t get an engagement year, they get a wedding day. Other couples are allowed to get engaged while they are engaged. I never understood this idea that everyone else should put their life on hold just because someone else is getting married. Just ignore her.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Are you going to do the running of the brides in Boston? Haha I so want to.

I got engaged a couple months after my younger brother. They do not even have an idea of a date yet so I will most likely get married first. No one cares either way ( I mean like no ones feelings were hurt)

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I always say you get a day! Not a year, or even a month! My best friend got married 2 weeks before me and my roommate 3 weeks after me! We had 7 weddings in one year besides our own! Get married when you want to! I would say give them at least a week buffer so that they can be back from their honeymoon to attend your wedding!

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

One note of caution however- having two children getting married close together can be expensive for all family members, so give some consideration to that.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Ugh gross, on her part.  It’s ONE DAY.  ONE.  NOT A YEAR.  But, on another note, sounds like you’re going to marry a wonderful man.  Look at rings just for fun?  Create potential guest list?  Uhh awesome.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

I was in the same boat! My SO’s brother JUST got married on (like a week ago) and we were supposed to be engaged by the end of 2010….and then 3 days before the year was up i cracked and said something to him about it and he said basically that he couldnt do that to his brother bc they were getting married too close to when we had discussed and he thought it wouldnt be very nice of him. SOOOO now they are married and Im still waiting, for who knows how long. I can understand not doing it right before they get married….but not at all would be too much! Its your life and you shouldnt put it on hold bc they got engaged first. I say go for it!!

Post # 13
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Worker bee

So what, these people don’t know anyone else who are getting married?  Ridiculous.  The timing of your whole relationship doesn’t depend on anyone but you!

When one of my BF’s friends got engaged, he said, “Well now I have to wait at least 2 weeks until I propose to you because I don’t want to steal their thunder.”  I was all, “Guh?!” (Of course that was TWO MONTHS ago, and when I asked him about it again he said, “Just kidding.”)  But whatever.  Just don’t get married on their wedding day… now that would be bad.  Unless of course you want a Jan and Marsha Brady-type double wedding. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think you’d be stealing their thunder by getting married a few months after them.  You’re happy, in love, and ready for marriage, and so is his brother, so this is a good thing!  The four of you can get together and talk about wedding stuff ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Ms.Aum: PP are right, you get an egagement day and a wedding day, not a month or years. So  you guys should go ahead with your plans.

 

That being said though, I do have to say that i am on the other side. I got engaged in October and my sister got engaged that December, and i was completley forgotten….dinner table discussions were about her wedding, (she chose to do it in our parents hometown so they were more involved) It hurt alot and iI am still not over it (and my wedding was almost six months ago and she ended up leaving her fiance!) That being said I do just want you to take into consideration that youonly get to plan a wedding once. I dont think his sister was AWFUL or anything like that, I dont think she was being gross or disrespectful..i just thinkg she was being honest.

I think you should go ahead with your plans…but just tread lighlty i suppose?

 

Congrats!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Baileyh: LOL, yeh, I don’t know if you could tell or not, but I’m still a little bitter that we only got two months of my wedding being important too. But like you also said, thats life. ๐Ÿ™‚

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