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My fiancé is seriously the most loving, inclusive person that I've met . As a result of his desire to include as many people as possible in our day, however, he came to me with a list of 13 people he wanted to stand with him as groomsmen (to my list of 6 or 7 ladies). We met in the middle at 10 and decided who those people would be. I asked all of my attendants right away. He took his time to ask most of the guys on his side (most of them already knew the proposal was coming and that he wanted them to be his groomsmen anyway). He has refused to ask the last one, however, until they're in a social setting. They've been friends for a long time, but now work together in a small office, and he refuses to ask said friend while they're at work. I can understand that rationale. However, he's asked this friend of ours to get together outside of work on many an occasion since he decided to ask him to be a groomsman and this guy has flaked out or flat out refused to get together every single time. I keep trying to tell FH that's a sign that he doesn't need to be/shouldn't be a groomsman. I keep reminding him that there are people he eliminated from the list so that this guy could be on there, and that he's been a total flake. How do I convince him that he doesn't need to ask this guy (or anyone for that matter... don't we have enough attendants already?!) to stand with him if he's been trying to get together with him for two months and has failed... and not for lack of trying?

You bring up a good point. It's definitely his decision. I just see him making this decision based solely (or at least mostly) on a feeling of obligation. He was this guy's BM last year, but they've fallen out of touch, and will probably only continue to. I don't have issues with this guy other than that he's been (what seems like intentionally) blowing my FH off for months. He's actually nicer to me than he is to my fiancé right now. We're all good terms. I'm not trying to make my FH's decisions for him... I'm just looking out. I don't want to see him get his feelings hurt or make a decision he'll regret out of a sense of obligation. But you're totally right... he's a grown man and can make his own decisions.