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Shortly after I got engaged, my step-cousin decided to get married to a guy she’d literally only been with three months. They set their date for September and ever since then it’s been Wedding mania. Bascially, my great aunt is close to dying of breast cancer. I mean, she’s still functioning but for the past three years her cancer keeps coming back right when she stops radiation. The past operation and round of radiation did not get rid of all of, so the doctors fear it’ll spread. Things aren’t good. She’s weak and exhausted, and has no hair on her body.
My step-cousin is being extremely selfish right now. She asked my cousins, my great-aunt’s daughters to be bridesmaids. Well, they still haven’t bought their dresses becuase they’ve been in and out of the hospital taking care of their sick mother. I keep getting phone calls from step-cousin complaining that no one has gotten their dress yet. She’s “pissed” that her dad told her she can’t have her reception in the backyard and that no one will cook for it now. She’s mad that my aunt and uncle can’t afford to buy a $100 FG dress plus rent two ring bearer tuxedos.
It is really getting outrageous! She wants everything to be about her, her, her, despite the fact that her step-mother is gravely ill. How could she expect my aunt to host a reception and cook for over 100 people while she’s so sick?? She threw a fit because someone suggested her FG wear white. She insists that everyone would be paying attention to the FG and not her!
Ughh! I’m supposed to go shoe shopping with her today and I’m not looking forward to it because I know she’s gonna whine the whole time.
Post # 3
Have you considered calling her out on her selfishness? She sounds completely outrageous!
Post # 4
I agree with Jenniferk6. She needs to be notified immeditately that her behavior is not okay.
Post # 5
I mean honestly if she is worried about losing attention to a flower girl… she clearly has no perspective on anything
Post # 6
Call her out! I would just tell it like it is. I would say “Listen, you are being a selfish bitch. Your step mother is DYING and you are worried about the FG’s wearing white!? Have you lost your mind? What makes you think that your step mother wants to cook for 100 people when she is DYING!? What makes you think that the bridesmaids are worried about dresses when their mother is DYING!? Have you stopped to think about things? Now, let’s go get some shoes…”
Post # 7
Her stepsister confronted her because it is so extreme lately. So, of course, step-cousin called me up to talk and she threw it in there that my cousin called her selfish. I didn’t respond to that, so I’m sure she got the picture, When she mentioned that she didn’t want the FG wearing white, I explained to her that it is actually customary and nobody is going to stare and gawk at a four year old. I seriously doubt anybody will stare and gawk at her either because she is extremely frumpy (refuses to put make up on, do her hair, or take off her glasses). Not to mention, I doubt she’ll have many guests because she and her FI rudely posted on FB “If you don’t RSVP by __________ then don’t expect a seat or food at our wedding! It’s not that hard to RSVP!”
Post # 8
@Miss Tattoo: *LOVE* (There are FEW posts by you I don’t love, lol)
@Pinksapphire: Is it possible this is her way of dealing, or rather NOT dealing, with her step-mother dying? (I did get that right, right?) Some people just can’t handle a loved one being so sick and on the verge of death. (I avoided my grandmother on her last days and used my son as an excuse…he was an infant and couldn’t see her due to a virus she had that’s common to people in nursing homes.)
Call her out on it, ask her what the hell is up? ASK if this is her way of dealing with it, because if so, it’s shitty and she needs to find a new outlet. Maybe a grief counciler or something.
Good luck and sooooo sorry about your aunt and your step-cousin 🙁
Post # 9
Word for word I’d email her what Miss Tattoo posted. Or tell her to her face. Either way she’ll get the point once and for all.
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I can’t believe someone would be so selfish at a time when their family is really struggling and needs love and support. I agree, you should call her out on her behavior before a relationship is severely damaged.