(Closed) Step Daughter wants us to postpone wedding!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
7796 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t tell her this, but: what does an 18 year old know? Get married as planned.

Post # 4
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

@paula1248:  +1 

I understand her concern, AND I think she is only trying to look out for her dad. 

But, hence it’s your relationship, and I think you should get married as planned.

Post # 6
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374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@iluvmy67cuda:  I’m so sorry about what is going on with you guys! It is really unfortunate that on top of all that you have to deal with the issue with your step daughter.

But follow threw with your wedding! Go for it!! Only you guys know what is best for you.

Post # 7
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1716 posts
Bumble bee

Well I’ve read both of your threads. I think you have more to worry about with your 10 year old possibly sexually active step daughter, and getting full custody of those kids, before worrying about a wedding.

 

Post # 8
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2137 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Regardless of her age, it really isn’t her business when y’all get married. Go ahead with your plans and don’t let her bring you down! 🙂

Post # 10
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1716 posts
Bumble bee

I wrote this big long reply about what you should be doing for these kids. But you’ve already made the choice to get married. Pretty sure you’re just looking for your choice to be validated.

Post # 11
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1114 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m sorry if I’m misunderstanding something, but what I get from your two threads is that you’re saving money for your wedding, but in your next breath you say you can’t afford a lawyer to gain custody of the two young kids.  If you’re worried about those kids’ safety and emotional and physical growth shouldn’t all your savings be going towards paying for a lawyer before you pay for a wedding?  I don’t have a clue how legal aid works in the US, so I can’t comment on that, but are you actually sure you can’t gain free legal advice and assistance anywhere?  Because that seems pretty backward to me.

In this situation I completely agree with your 18 year old step-daughter – some things are far more important than getting married.  She appears to be being far more circumspect than you are.

Post # 12
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1975 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

reading your other post i say postpone and get care for those kids!

Post # 13
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1432 posts
Bumble bee

At first my response was going to be that your 18 yr old step daughter should have no say in whether or not you marry. But after reading your other post I am not so sure. I agree with the PP that the priority should be getting custody of those children and if your having financial difficulty then paying for a wedding should come second to a lawyer.  If you want to marry right now a marriage license at a court house costs next to nothing.  I am sorry for your situation.. honestly I don’t think I could handle all that craziness with the ex’s family.. But I think putting your time, energy and money into a wedding right now doesn’t seem right with what other things are going on.

Post # 14
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Considering everything going on with your FI’s family, I would postpone. He is a father first and should put his kids’ wellbeing before everyone else, even you. 

Post # 16
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Wow, this guy’s got severely damaged kids and he met and moved you in within 6 months? It sounds like you need to slow down. These children need some stability in their lives. 

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