I am meeting my florist for the final consultation (woohoo) before the big day this evening and I'm excited! But after writing everyone down for corsages I started thinking am I suppose to get them for my step-grandparents too? My dad only recently remarried a couple months ago and I have meet the step grandparents only a handful of times. What is the right thing to do? Thanks for your input on this matter it is very much appreciated.
So you are referring to your dad's new wife's parents (and not one of your grandparents who has remarried)? If it's your stepmother's parents in question, it's probably not necessary to get them corsages. Are you planning to formally seat them before the ceremony (a la "seating of the grandmothers")? If you are, get corsages, if not (and since you've met them only a handful of times I'd image this is more likely the case), don't bother on account of obligation but if you like them and think they'd enjoy it maybe give them because of that.
Yes it's my step mother parent's but now I am thinking about the "seating of the grandmothers" I completely forgot about that now I have two dilemia's uuggghh...
Sure, why not? My corsages are running me $6.00 each, so it is better to be safe and get them for all the grandparents than to try to save some money. They will think it is sweet of you! My grandma loves flowers, and she remembers everytime I've given them to her!
I agree w/caliocteach - corsages are far from your biggest cost, so why not? You don't have to get grandmothers the same corsages you get mothers - our moms' corsages were the most ornate and the largest of the corsages, with the remainder smaller and simpler (same w/bouts - the groom's the fanciest, the rest simpler). It's a nice way to include them as family, which they are now, for very little effort or expense on your part.
Plus seriously, unless you are having some kind of particularly exotic flower, you can add corsages/bouts almost any time. Ours were cream and lavender roses, and I added two bouts and a corsage three days before the wedding... the florist didn't even blink.
I think I know how you feel. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but you also don't feel like you should give special recognition to someone that isn't that important to you.
I have great aunts that I am closer to than my step-grandmother and I feel like I should get something for the women who helped raise me instead of someone that didn't come into my life until I was an adult. I would only give corsages to blood relatives like grandmothers and mothers just to keep things simple. I don't think anyone can be upset with you for that.
I am meeting my florist for the final consultation (woohoo) before the big day this evening and I'm excited! But after writing everyone down for corsages I started thinking am I suppose to get them for my step-grandparents too? My dad only recently remarried a couple months ago and I have meet the step grandparents only a handful of times. What is the right thing to do? Thanks for your input on this matter it is very much appreciated.
posted by AshleyluvsJ 24 posts 4 months agoSo you are referring to your dad's new wife's parents (and not one of your grandparents who has remarried)? If it's your stepmother's parents in question, it's probably not necessary to get them corsages. Are you planning to formally seat them before the ceremony (a la "seating of the grandmothers")? If you are, get corsages, if not (and since you've met them only a handful of times I'd image this is more likely the case), don't bother on account of obligation but if you like them and think they'd enjoy it maybe give them because of that.
posted by chelseamorning 217 posts 4 months agoYes it's my step mother parent's but now I am thinking about the "seating of the grandmothers" I completely forgot about that now I have two dilemia's uuggghh...
posted by AshleyluvsJ 24 posts 4 months agoI would include them. She's probably a sweet little old lady! It would probably make them very happy and it's not that much money.
posted by KateMW 483 posts 4 months agoSure, why not? My corsages are running me $6.00 each, so it is better to be safe and get them for all the grandparents than to try to save some money. They will think it is sweet of you! My grandma loves flowers, and she remembers everytime I've given them to her!
posted by caliocteach 720 posts 4 months agoI agree w/caliocteach - corsages are far from your biggest cost, so why not? You don't have to get grandmothers the same corsages you get mothers - our moms' corsages were the most ornate and the largest of the corsages, with the remainder smaller and simpler (same w/bouts - the groom's the fanciest, the rest simpler). It's a nice way to include them as family, which they are now, for very little effort or expense on your part.
posted by suzanno 1,984 posts 4 months agoPlus seriously, unless you are having some kind of particularly exotic flower, you can add corsages/bouts almost any time. Ours were cream and lavender roses, and I added two bouts and a corsage three days before the wedding... the florist didn't even blink.
posted by suzanno 1,984 posts 4 months agoI think I know how you feel. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but you also don't feel like you should give special recognition to someone that isn't that important to you.
I have great aunts that I am closer to than my step-grandmother and I feel like I should get something for the women who helped raise me instead of someone that didn't come into my life until I was an adult. I would only give corsages to blood relatives like grandmothers and mothers just to keep things simple. I don't think anyone can be upset with you for that.
posted by angiepangie 94 posts 4 months ago