Step-Mamma Drama

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
6671 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

What a weird situation.  If you both liked her that would be one thing.  Did FIL and stepmom invite DH’s bio-mom to their wedding? Of course not- because you don’t get invited just because you are someone’s mom.

Post # 4
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

NOOOOO….do not invite. Your excuse? It’s FI’s decision. I personally see her presence at your wedding to be a complete disaster. From what you wrote, she sounds very mentally unstable, and I think it would cause a lot of drama. If your fiance’ doesn’t want her there, then leave the ultimate decision up to him. I don’t see this harming any relationships…surely the stepbro and sis have seen how he had been treated by their own mother growing up? 

Post # 5
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

If his dad is no longer married to her and his brother and sister are old enough to not need her for transportation then I would not invite this woman.

Post # 6
1532 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I dont see a need to invite former step parents if the former step child (either bride or groom) doesnt want to.  I do think this should be primarily the decision of the bride or groom whose former step parent it is. Not certain what you mean by his brother and sister being part of the day, but I would gently inform them tha their mother will not be invited, and make certain they will still be part of the day.


Post # 8
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@brpapke:  I think its a decision your fiance has to make.  If he doesn’t want his ex-step-mother there, I don’t think you are obligated to invite her.

Post # 9
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

You follow FI’s lead on this and support it fully. His family, his relationships, his decision.  This shouldn’t be on your plate at all.

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