Post # 1
My fiance has a good relationship with his ex wife. The way Christmas morning works with their little girl is that she alternates which house she stays at. However, the other parent come is welcome at Christmas morning at the opposite house.
Ex: FI and I have her for christmas eve and morning, but her mom comes to our house early on christmas morning and is part of the present opening.
Next year Mom has her at her ouse and FI and I go to his ex’s house early xmas morning to be a part of presents with the little one.
It is annoying to have to stock a tree full of presents for my FI’s ex. And expensive. But overall, I much prefer this to not seeing my step daughter every year for Xmas. I thought it would be a bigger deal than it was to have FI’s ex for xmas morning. Honestly, the morning is about the little one, not my FI and I.
I don’t know how my feelings on this will change when we have our own children and his ex will be there on xmas morning, and how we will handle years when my step daughter is at her mom’s house, but we will cross that bridge when we get there. She will be old enough at that point to vocalize her wants at that point too, which will help.
How is Xmas morning handled for you guys if you have step-children or are divorced with children?
Holidays feel extra crazy for children with divorced parents. I feel like the kiddo is pulled in every direction and never really gets to settle down. We do the best we can thought
Post # 3
Stepson spends the night at his mother’s and the early morning. We pick him up around 10 or 11 and have him for the rest of the day. She is not someone that we could ever have to our house, otherwise a plan like yours sounds nice.
Post # 4
When I was a kid, I lived with my mom. We spent Christmas Eve and early Christmas morning with her. My dad picked me up at about 10 and we went to my grandmother’s, opened gifts there and had Turkey luncheon. My dad returned me to my mom’s for turkey dinner at her house.
Post # 5
My ex lives quite far from me and DH so I always had our son for xmas eve and xmas morning then after xmas lunch they would come pick him up and he would spend xmas day afternoon/night, boxing day and the 27th at his dads and then we would pick him up on the afternoon of the 27th. that way our son got to see all the family on both sides, we both saw him xmas day and he loved getting presents allllll day lol.
Post # 6
when i was a child my mom and dad divorced and my mom got remarried. we had a blended family. i spent 23/24 with my mom and stepdad as christmas eve/christmas, later on the 24/25 was my dads christmas eve/christmas. to this day we still celebrate it a day early because no its a tradition we love. my mom and step dad and half brother all go to the movies on christmas since they celebrate it early
Post # 7
According to our custody agreement, my ex husband and I alternate holidays. However he has not seen her for Christmas for the past 4 years. Dad of the year!
Post # 8
I’m a step-mom to two grown girls and we try to give each side of the family equal time with them. We’ve been following this system (below) for the past few years and it’s been great.
Christmas Eve: dinner and gifts at our house with our two girls and my husband’s immediate family
Christmas Morning (9:00am): presents with us and the girls and our dogs
Christmas Morning (11:00am): girls head to their mom’s house for lunch with mom and her immediate family and spend the afternoon with them before driving to see friends/boyfriends for a few hours. Husband and I head to my parents house for brunch and presents.
Christmas Night: we all meet back at home and watch movies together while eating popcorn, desserts, and drinking hot chocolate.
Post # 9
My step-daughter lives with us full time and has celebrated Christmas with us only. We skype Christmas morning with his parents, but bio-mom has never expressed the desire. She hasn’t seen her in at least 2 years maybe 3 (babygirl is only 5) and hasn’t talked to her since last year. She lives about six hours away (as opposed to 12 whe they lived far away) and hasn’t tried to even speak with her on the phone since probably July or August of last year it feels like. It’s sad.
Post # 10
My DS dad just moved 4 houses down the street from us so we might include him on Christmas morning this year. In previous years, DS has gone to his dads parents house on Christmas Eve for their annual Christmas Party and his dad drops him off to us around midnight. DS wakes at our house on Christmas and spends all of Christmas day with us. We’ve done this every year since DS was 2 (he is 10 now). It works great for us!
Post # 11
@freshflowers: I’d not be okay with that arrangement, but I guess if you can deal with that then more power to you!
My son always does Christmas morning at my house and then later in the day goes to his Dad’s house.
We alternate years with my step kids, this year we don’t get them until almost New Year’s so we will do Christmas with them when they come.