- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
DH and I have been together for five years. During that time, his son’s Mom has known about me (never met me) but we have communicated over the phone, text, whatever. I have never been a secret, and while we keep communication sparse, if it’s about SS, we can make it work. SS just turned 19, but is still in High School.
Anyway, DH just got new insurance cards. They sent us two, so I had to call and request a 3rd for him (he lives in a different state.) They said they would send them to me, since we’re the insured parents, and I was welcome to send it to him.
Okay, no harm.
I text SS (who, like I said, is an ADULT) and I get a text back “Why are they even going to you, I’m 18, I’m an adult.)
First, I strongly suspect this was her, because SS has NEVER spoken to me like that the whole time I’ve known him. Ever.
Second, what the hell does it matter? This is not the first, or even second time that we have had to do a health insurance card handoff like this. He’s covered, so why is this a thing?
I stopped answering because it made me so mad, but since it was text, I didn’t know if I was reading it snotty when it was a genuine question. DH came home, I showed him the texts, and said that I ordered his son’s card, and he was welcome to handle it from here, and he said “You’re the only person in the world who would think that was rude.” That didn’t lead for the best night ever, for us. We fought, woke up the baby, and then he went to bed on the sofa. (FTR, this was one of our poorer communication moments, but it was 11pm, we hadn’t eaten dinner, and I’m pregnant with an infant, and when he works 15h days, it pretty much sucks all around.)
Anyway, this is obviously something I should just let go. We’re covering SS until he is 25 because it doesn’t cost us any more money to do so, but I admit, in my head, I was thinking “We only HAVE to cover him until he’s out of school, after that, LET him be an adult.”
But that’s no good either.
So, like I said, sometimes, the whole gig just sucks.