Post # 1
I have four step-siblings. I’m not close with any of them and have always wanted a smaller bridal party. The FI and I decided that we wouldn’t ask any of the step-siblings to stand up. I thought that since it was uniform across the board no one would be upset, especially since I was planning on asking one of my step-sister’s daughters to be the flower girl.
Well the above named step sister found out and is not so happy. She hasn’t said anything to me yet, but my mom passed along the information. I have stood up in two of the step sister’s wedding, but do not feel close to either one. Both of my parents remarried while I was in college so I did not grow up with them.
Do you think I made a mistake in not asking any of them to stand up? Is it ok to stand up in other people’s weddings and not ask them to be in yours?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
My mantra is “do what makes you happy”. This is YOUR wedding and I feel like you should have the people with you that mean the most to you. People shouldn’t just expect to be a part of your bridal party.
Just my thoughts
Post # 4
I totally understand. I don’t want to ask my future sis in law because we really don’t get along; plus if I did would than have to ask my future bro in law’s gf as well. And, that makes me have six and I wanted a small bp. My FMIL is pushing the situation and I just want to yell that it is my wedding and it’s my decision..and we don’t get along! She is soo this is all about me and for once in my life, my wedding is going to abeout ME and not about everyone else. I’m tired of doing things for someone else. Do what makes you happy!
I agree. They shouldn’t expect to be in yours since you were in there. Esp since you have four and I would think if you ask one, you probably have to ask all four to avoid problems with well you ask so and so..why not me?
I would just explain that you want a small bridal party and unfortunately wasn’t able to choose between the four of my wonderful step-siblings. Or say something about the chapel being small and only a small bp can fit up there with you…:S
Post # 5
i completely think it’s okay for you not to ask them to stand up. But someone people do feel like asking one to be in their wedding entitles them to be in yours, so just understand that there might be some touchy conversations but you can always let them know that you’re looking for a small party but would love their help