Post # 1
Please guys.. tell me if I am being a bridezilla or if you think I have the right to be uspet/angry. I have a step sister, my dads daughter, shes a lot older and I barely know her. I met her once, when she got married when I was in middleschool. Anyways since shes my dads daughter too of course we invited her and her husband to the wedding. When she originally got the invitation she started texting me randomly and being friendly. So when we went and blocked out a bunch of rooms at the hotel 3 minutes from the venue I sent her a text to let her know. (btw shes from colorado or geogia i dont even know) She responded by saying that they will be staying at dads house and that dad will be paying them back for the flight. Like really!?! Am I wrong for being upset about this? Our house isnt big. Its my parents room, my room and my sisters. So either they will be sleeping on the couch or my sister will be. Not only the technical part of how 6 people will get ready in a one bathroom house the morning of, but the night before I wanted just me my sister my mom and dad, hanging out talking about memories, which would not happen if her and her husband are there because 1 they dont even know me so what are they going to say and 2 since they barely know all of us it will probably be my parents asking them questions and talking about them on the night before my wedding. Then theres the morning of, Im sorry but I barely know her I dont want her getting ready with all of us in all of the pictures etc- not like theres even going to be enough room for everyone (i dont have a big bridal party either, just me my sister, one friend, my mom , my fi mom, and fi’s dads gf and her daughter-flower girl) Uhh im just really angry and upset about this. What would you do? Do I make them take it back? Plus if my dad was already paying for their flight now he’ll have to pay for their hotel? and If hes paying for their flight and they planned on staying at my parents house, I am 100% positive they werent going to rent a car, so what now my dad has to drive them to the church? ANY ADVICE AT ALL IS GREATLY APPRECIATED!!!
Post # 3
Honestly, I don’t think it’s that big of a deal. They can sleep on the couch and I’m sure they won’t be getting in your way when you get ready, I assume you’ll be getting ready much sooner than they would be (at least at my wedding I was ready probably 2-3 hours before most guests were for pictures and what not). I don’t really see why the night before has to be discussion all about you or why you have an issue with your dad driving them to the church. It’s your dad’s daughter, he probably wants her there which is why he invited her to stay there. I really would just let it go.
Post # 4
I think this is one of those “pick your battles” situations. She is your father’s daughter, so she is part of the family and it will be difficult to bring this up to your father without any emotional conflict. You might really enjoy having her there the night before. She might turn out to be a great addition to your day. The wedding process is stressful enough that I don’t think you should make yourself stressed out even more for something that you can’t really control. I doubt she will be in the getting ready pictures anyway, as PP said, the wedding party gets done before.
Post # 5
I’m sorry, but I would be upset as well. They need to get a hotel. Tell your father that it is incredibly important that the morning is shared with your immediate family, and you can’t deal with the stress of a packed house. Explain how much you were looking forward to spending the morning and night before with your close family. If they say you are being selfish, agree, and continue to insist. It is your wedding day. You have a right to have expectations when it comes to time spent with family. That is your last night with them as your immediate, nuclear family. The next day, you will be starting a family of your own. Offer to pay for her hotel if that is the root of the issue.
Post # 6
I would be a little upset, but as long as you set some boundaries, I think it’ll be fine. Just tell her that it’s gonna be hectic on the day of and that you want to spend quality time with your sister, dad and mom. I’m pretty sure she’ll get the hint. Also. remind your father of these key issues….especially the logistics of travel! As the FOB he shouldn’t be shuttling anyone!
Post # 7
Well I won’t say you’re being a bridezilla, but I don’t see where you have anything to be angry over. She’s staying at your parents house, your parents are paying for her plane ticket, and your parents are providing her transportation to the event. I fail to see where this inconveniences you in any way. And if your father had a problem with helping her with any of these things, then I’m sure he wouldn’t have agreed to it. I know its your wedding, but I really don’t think this aspect of it concerns you. It sounds to me like these were all arrangements made between your father and your sister, regarding your father’s resources. I just don’t get the issue here. I’m sure you can still talk about memories, with the rest of your family in her presence, and i also don’t see the problem with the photographer catching her in a picture or 2 if it happens. Your wedding day is probably going to be awesome, and in the grand scheme of things, this whole situation will be so minor.