Step sister planning engagement/wedding near mine

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Amberrr:  Sorry, but you can’t claim a year, especially when you haven’t set a date. I agree siblings’ weddings shouldn’t be too close due to the overlap in guests who might have to travel, but even then I’d say the most they should space their weddings is about 3 months. I’m not sure if it’s as big an issue with step siblings – it depends on how many guests are going to both. But in any case, my opinion on dates is it’s “first come first served”. Since you don’t have a date yet, you can’t tell her not to set a date.

So don’t worry until you’ve set a date.

I’m not sure what’s going on with the will, but it would certainly be unfair if your father + stepmother are giving more money to your stepsister than to you.

Post # 3
7940 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

She sounds jealous and desperate, and that she likely has a screw lose. I wouldnt let her bother you, and doubt she was given any $$ for an imaginary wedding but you should ask your dad about it. I would just go on my merry way wedding planning and not sweat it.

Post # 4
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If she’s getting married to a guy she barely knows just so that she’s not ‘outdone’ by you, then she’s not going to be happy anyway. 3k won’t make her happy anyway but if you’re worried about the money just ask your Dad.

Just plan your own wedding and don’t worry about it 🙂

Post # 6
891 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

amanda3334455:  this!

I was also going to say that if she’s marrying this guy to outdo you, that’s unfortunate because it won’t last. But one thing that always bothers me on these boards- you get one day, not a whole year. Peoples lives can’t stop because of your wedding. Now, if you had a date set and she planned her wedding for the day before, I could see being upset but you still can’t do much about it. Concentrate on your relationship- you’re marrying the man you love. Just hope that your stepsister is doing the same.

Post # 7
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper

So instead of being happy for your step-sister you are choosing to make her life choices all about you? Not quite sure who has the problem here .

Fact is she is living her life but it sounds like you are trying to make it into a competition and you are trying to turn family against her. 

You must really hate this girl.

Post # 8
5207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Amberrr:  So, neither of you has been proposed to yet, and you’re upset with her for sharing wedding ideas she happens to like? For a hypothetical 2016 wedding? Chill out. You don’t get to claim a date or a venue or a guest list. 

Post # 11
4638 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Neither of you are engaged. Slow your roll and wait to see what happens.. 

You’re completely losing it over a bunch of hypthetical situations that may not even happen. 

Post # 12
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Amberrr:  nothing in life is guaranteed just something to remember. Whose to say that your step-sister wont have a great marriage to this guy whilst you and your better than her 7 year relationship ends? Who says that by 2016 they wont be ready to marry? You are being extremely petty here. And as others have pointed out neither of you are even engaged yet and you are already hovering towards bridezillaville.

Are you really saying you expect your dad to choose not going to his daughters wedding so he can pay for your wedding? I mean wow I would really hate to be your dad. Sounds like a nightmare having a daughter that is only after my money rather than my happiness.

Pay for your own wedding and stop being petty. 

Post # 13
3438 posts
Sugar bee

Amberrr:  Okay I wasn’t exactly sympathetic until I read that last part.  Your dad gave your inheritence away to your sister???  I’m not into the whole “it’s my money and I need it now” but if he really refused to give you and your brother your inheritence and instead gave it to your sister to use, that’s really shady.  What if you and your FI actually wanted to use that for savings.  I personally wouldn’t use the money on a wedding and instead would put it into a savings account for later.  But to have that option taken away that is what bothers me.  Forget the whole wedding issue with your sister, your dad picking and choosing who gets inheritence and who doesn’t…

Post # 14
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yeah.. like 1) Pay for your own wedding, 2) it’s 2016!! That’s like.. ages away! 3) Your step-sister has been with this guy for 2 weeks.. she’s not even close to being engaged and you guys aren’t properly engaged either!

You need to seriously chill out, be happy for your step-sister if and when she gets engaged, and stop worrying about something that may or may not happen 2 years from now.

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