Step Sisters and Mother issues

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@hd5537:  As you are an adult, she does not have to be ‘involved’ meaning you are more than capable of doing your wedding by yourself.

There is a way to handling them. Don’t explain yourself unless asked. Just say “I wanted a smaller wedding party but I would love it if you would do xyz with me”. For your Stepmum, if she asks I would say “FI and I are take care of that but I appreciate your concern.”

You do not own them an explanation for anything.

Post # 4
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1570 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Do no talk about wedding in front of her.   If she suggests anything, just say, we have it covered?  Do you live with your dad?

Post # 5
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3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hd5537:  It is all your choice and they can cry and moan ALL they want but it is your day! I would offer time to maybe wedding brain storm with them but other than that you don’t and shouldn’t do anything else. Just tell them that if they have a suggestion that you would love to hear it but can’t promise it will be used. As for your bridal party you can explain to them that you are keeping it simple but love that they wanted to help! Just tell them you would rather them be able to relax as guests and enjoy everything your wedding will have to offer. 

I am paying for the wedding myself as well and it is great not needing anyone else input! Just be nice and listen to ideas they may have. Good luck darling!

Post # 6
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2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Since you and your FI are paying for the wedding, YOU get to pick who you want in your bridal party. If you want your real sister and best friend as your attendants, then that is your decision. You are adults and this is YOUR party, not theirs. Some of the PPs have offered some excellent suggestions.

Post # 9
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Oh god i feel for you, hope it all gets fixed in the end 🙂

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