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I remember reading a very similar story on this board...
What I would say is it's your choice. Of course your father is important to you however it might be better if you do not neglect those who have been there most of your life.
It must be a hard choice though and you might feel like you're walking on glass. Isn't there any way that you would want to incorporate both? Or give him another honour like being a master of ceremony or something along those lines?
didn't you just post a few days ago as the mother? it might be less confusing if you all get separate accounts for WB. :)
Either way, the choice is definitely the bride's. Consider the tradition of giving away the bride: it comes from when the father would pass the bride off to the groom. Who do you feel is most realistically giving you away? If that's your mom, then have your mom walk you down. If it's all three, consider finding an arrangment that can accomodate all three.
But if you just want to take the more traditional approach and have your dad walk you, that's okay too!
You can also go the other extreme and not have anyone 'give you away' - after all, it's a really antiquated tradition without any real significance in our modern society. My FI and I are going to have all of our parents stand and offer their blessing on our marriage, but no one will give anyone away, and we may walk down the aisle together (towards marriage, rather than me going towards him).
Don't feel like you HAVE to do anything, no matter who is pressuring you into it - mom, dad, step dad, society or anyone else!
Very confused as to why you and your Mom have posted under the same log on.
You need to do what works best for you (not what works for your Mom, Dad, or Step Dad). If your family is making this decision difficult for you, or pressuring you, consider walking down the aisle by yourself. Its your wedding day - do what you want to do.
I am in the same situation - however I have decided to have them both walk me down the aisle.... Both will feel important and its what is going to make me happy.
This is such a tough question. I don't have a relationship with my father, my step-father also did everything for me. My father isn't attending the wedding and my step-father is walking me down the aisle. To me, is not about DNA as much as support. I'd have my step-father walk me down the aisle if I were you too. It seems like he loves you and has been there for you and this is the most special way to show how much that has meant to you and how important he is to you.
I am in the same boat. My father did not raise me at all. Our relationship now is very volatile.
My mom remarried when I was 11. My stepdad also did everything for me. I have a few suggestions.
1. You could have both your mother and your stepdad walk you down the aisle.
2. you could have just your stepdad walk you down the aisle
3. or you could walk down by yourself.
Personally I would not have my bio dad walk me down the aisle, I dont even think I am going to invite him to my wedding.
I hope this helps....
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I have a question that is very important to my wedding. I was 12 yrs old when my mother remarried.I am 21 now.My biological father lives in PR and I've seen him on and off.He did not raise me at all my mother did.My step father did almost everything for me.He gave me money when I went out.He taught me how to drive.He would get up at 11 PM to pick me up from work.Signed for a new car etc etc.Do you think he should be in the ceremony,and walk down the isle, or should my bio father do which I thought would be best . I want my mother to walk me down also.I'm confused, and I don't know what to do.Do you think my stepfather should walk down the isle,and how & with who? Please help me with this decision.
Thanks Brit