- 4 years ago
There is some serious drama on the husbands side of the family and its been going on for awhile now. I wanted to get the bees opinions on who is right in this situation and who is wrong. I also wanted to know what each party should do going forward.
Situation is my husbands parents own a home that grandma used to live in and when she passed, it was in my husbands moms name. They still owe roughly 40,000 on the house and it would probably sell for 70,000 tops because its in a small town so the cost of living is not alot. Since grandma passed,my husbands sister and her husband moved into the house. During that time, they were paying just the mortage ($450/month) and were not paying taxes or insurance which was an additional $150$/month. my Husbands parents were only making them pay the bare minimum because it was family. During that time, my husbands sister decided they were going to eventually buy the house down the line and live there for good. My sister in law did a few upgrades to the home, but my husbands father did all of the labor work for free of charge. Here is what they did to the house:
Ripped up the carpet only to find out there was real hard wood underneath so they didnt have to install floors.
Took down wallpaper and painted one room for a nursery.
Put in a new bath tub & sink in the bathroom.
Built a bridge over the creek out back.
All of these things were cost of materials and my father in law did all of the labor for free since it is family. This was all done because my husbands sister thought they were going to stay there and buy the home for good.
About 6 months ago, my sister in law and her husband decided they wanted to move an hour away. This was an unexpected decision that shocked everyone. Since then there has been immense tension because SIL is now saying that my husbands parents owe her and her husband 15,000. They are saying they put 15,000 into the house in upgrades and are to be paid back that money. Mind you, there was no lease or anything written on paper. They were living in the home for 3 years paying the mortgage and they did upgrades at their own will with the intent to live there for good and buy the home. The home is in MIL’s name. This situation is causing so much strife and my Mother-In-Law is in tears daily about this. SIL’s husband is threatening to sue for the money and demands he is owed all of the money he put into the house.
My husband is getting upset hearing this drama every week. Its always the same thing. SIL and her husband feel like they are owed the money they put into the home. Mother-In-Law & Father-In-Law say they owe nothing because they didnt ask for upgrades to be done and there is no contract. Plus they dont have any money to give. They live a simple life in a small town, they dont have 15,000 dollars. SIL’s husband said if they ever sell the house, he would settle with them splitting the money if any is made, but they arent planning to sell the home. They have now found a tenant to rent the home. The new issue is that they cant get SIL and her husband to get all of their belongings out of the home. SIL left the house with half ripped up carpet that wasnt finished and the basement full of trash/junk. Mother-In-Law is too scared to speak up to her daughter but needs them to clear out their stuff so they can get the house ready for the new tenant. Its all a big mess! I feel like since im not blood, I cant stick up for anyone. I feel like I have to sit back and watch this crap unfold.
The biggest kicker which blows my husbands mind and I’s is that during all of this, Mother-In-Law was watching SIL’s newborn baby for roughly 50-60 hours a week FOR FREE for 2 months. FREE. No charge. The only reason she isnt watching the baby full time now is because SIL is off work for the summer.
Bees, who is right in this scenario and who is out of line?