Post # 1
My cousin is my MOH. She became engaged in December 2012. When she started planning her wedding, she asked if my FI, who is a photographer, could do the photos. I asked him, and he said he would. He wants to charge $500 for the whole day, $1000 less than he normally would. I think she believes it would be free, since he is my FI and all. He will give her the images so she can create her own album,(stuff she LOVES doing!) Do you think it is wrong for him to charge? He will have to rent a car while in town, and travel to three separate locations for the photos: church, covered bridge that is pretty out of the way, and the reception location. I think $500 is pretty fair, since I have been doing research of my own for photographers who give the couple the images and the prices are much, much higher. Any advice would be welcome.
Post # 3
I think it’s crappy to make family work at a family wedding regardless, but I would give her half off, not a full $1k.
Post # 4
@brendaray2009: Are you guys invited to the wedding?
Post # 5
nothing is free – i think 500 is resonable for a familymembervendor
Post # 6
@brendaray2009: I think it’s perfectly fair. We are having a videographer who is a family member and charging us for it at a reduced cost. Your deal sounds perfectly fair to me!
Post # 7
Have you told her he said yes? If not, then I suggest that all future communication be bewtween the two of them.
He is a professional. He should be used to telling clients what his rate will be.
Best to clear this up asap.
Post # 8
If she is going to be your MOH she will definitely be shelling out a lot of cash for your wedding for your festivities. I’m going to go against the grain here and say this could be your wedding gift for her and things would probably even out expense wise. I would have her cover the rental car/gas costs and make sure she knows in advance that it will need to be covered by her.
Post # 9
I think the $500 is more than fair, considering the time, effort and his expertise. It’s been brought up on other threads to make sure that you put things in writing even if it’s for family or friends.
Post # 10
@brendaray2009: We’re having a good friend do ours and even though he offered, is also coming as a gust, and wants to do it as our wedding present, we’re still paying him. I think half price is incredibly generous. Better clear this up now, and since he’s the ‘vendor’ it would be best if he handled the communication and the details just to keep it as professional as possible.
Post # 11
She might not be aware of the costs involved for him (based on some threads on this forum, she wouldn’t be the only one). Estimate how much it costs him to spend the whole day there (hourly rate plus editing, equipment, travel, etc.) and then decide if charging 500$ is a gift (i.e. that’s less than he’s spending), breaking even or way over what it will cost him.
Post # 12
@brendaray2009: Is this your FI’s full-time job? Or does he eventually plan on making money off of it? Nothing in life is free. I used to be a full-time wedding photog and I charged all my friends close to 90% of my full-rate (I gave them a break on some products). I’d rather keep things professional by charging and having a contract. These situations often go really, really badly, so both sides should be protected.
Post # 13
You should put her in touch with him. He would be her vendor, you are just hooking her up with him.
Post # 14
I think $500 is more than fair for the work he will be doing. He doesn’t cound like he will have time to be a guest at this wedding with the multiple places he has to go to take her pictures. I would suggest you are clear with her that he is not doing this for free. If she were hiring a photographer other than him it would cost her a lot more that $500 so he is saving her a ton.
Post # 15
I would have said yes the $500 was more then fair IF you had of already told your cousin the cost before your FI agreed to do it. Since no cost has been mentioned and it’s already been agreed upon, I’d say it’s too late.
At this point I think your only option is to make the photography your wedding gift.
Post # 16
Since it sounds like you both would be at her wedding anyways, there’s no loss in another potential client for her wedding day or any additional costs to the both of you that you wouldnt have if you were simply attending. If it were me, and he was willing to do it, I’d pitch it to her as a wedding gift to her from the both of you rather than charge her for it.