Post # 1
Most of the married/living together couples that I know don’t hang out on the couch together while they watch tv/movies, etc. in the family room anymore. They usually have his & hers couches or the woman has her own chair while the man sprawls out on the couch. I do NOT want this happen to my SO & I when/if we get married.
So what do you all do? If you’ve stopped, could you explain when this happened and/or why you stopped?
Post # 3
Definitely not! We’ve been married for a little while now, been together for 7 years, and we sit as close to each other as we possibly can in all situations. We always cuddle on the couch. We’re also that annoying couple that sits on the same side of the booth in restaurants. If we’re not in a booth we sit next to each other at the table, and we’re always touching. My husband doesn’t like it if some part of us isn’t touching at all times.
I wouldn’t worry! Marriage doesn’t magically change your relationship–if you’re cuddly now you’re going to be cuddly post-nuptials. 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t really like cuddling that much, it’s uncomfortable and I always get a crick in my neck. Probably because we don’t have huge furniture to sit on. We sometimes hang out on the same sofa to watch TV, but we like watching different things.
Post # 5
We cuddle maybe 50% of the time, but we’re not really cuddlers to begin with. Every once in a while one of us will go, “I need a hug,” and then we’ll snuggle, but we definitely have to be in a certain mood for it.
Post # 6
@mrsmdphd: hahaha I’m glad you admit you’re “one of those annoying couples!” While we don’t do that, I think it’s cute when people do. Unless they’re totally slobbering all over each other. Blech! I know marriage doesn’t magically change it, but I just wonder if it slowly happens over time. We’ve talked about actively making sure that doesn’t change, but ya never know.
Post # 7
@LaurenK0105: Ha, yes, I freely admit it. But we definitely do NOT make out in public. Yuck. We just like to be close. I really think if you don’t want it to change, it won’t. It’s only when couples get complacent that things like intimacy fall by the way side, and you don’t sound like you’re at any risk for that!
Post # 8
We were married for green card reasons in october. so technically we are married. ( I still dont feel married but legally we are) We have our moments where we do cuddle and lay together but thats when one of us says do you want to cuddle? Most of the time he is in a chair and I’m on the couch. We still cuddle but I think since we know we can whenever we want its not necessary all the time
Post # 9
My SO and I have been together for a little over 4 years, living together for about 3. We still cuddle on the couch most of the time, but sometimes we need our own space. 🙂
Post # 10
We still cuddle all the time! However, usually we’ll sit close together on the couch and hold hands and cuddle a little if we’re watching a movie or tv. We tend to do most of our cuddling on our bed 🙂
Post # 12
@SoontobeMrsA: So are we!! I feel totally uncomfortable and don’t really do it if other people are around.
Post # 13
We are definitely just as cuddly as we always were, after 5 years together and 2 1/2 years living together. We don’t always sit and snuggle while watching TV simply because of the logistics of our living room, it’s hard to find a comfortable way for us to both see the TV and be on the same couch. Otherwise we are huge snugglers, it’s also easier for us both to fall asleep if we are snuggled up.
Post # 14
I wish we were cuddly. We aren’t anymore. The spark is kind of fizzly right now. LAME.
Post # 15
We cuddle a fair amount. We got over the awkward cuddling-for-the-sake-of-cuddling thing. For instance, sitting with his arm around me is super uncomfortable on our couch, because the back is so high so it hurts my neck. But sometimes I’ll put my legs on his lap, or I’ll lay in his lap, or we’ll hold hands and squeeze for a couple minutes and then go back to typing on our computers and whatnot. I think the nice thing about being comfortable with someone is that you don’t cuddle just because you’re both there, but rather you cuddle when the urge to be close to each other comes over you. And otherwise you can be comfortable and do your own thing. I love it!
Post # 16
FH and I have been together 2.5 years living together for over 2 years and have a 4 month old together, and we are just as cuddly as when we first started dating.