Post # 1
We have several big events coming up.
1: our bonvoyage/his 40th catered party where we’re expecting 80 + people.
2: The jasmine we planted a year ago has finally covered the garden arbour and is beginning to flower (just dumb I know I KNOW)
3: Our 3rd dating aniversary on 11/9/13 – I hate that date though, still, he didnt kiss me til after midnight!
4: we leave for our new life on the 14/9/13.
After all his carry on about getting married he has clammed up tight!!! Nothing has changed, we live as per usual, love as per usual, we still crackers about each other and I STILL WANT a surprise.
I dont want to know its coming so I dont bring it up.
But its getting to me today, thanks for the vent space Bee’s 😀
Post # 3
My FI clammed up when he was planning a proposal. I know waiting is hard, I waited for over 4 years, lived together for over 3, and so many big things came and went and NOTHING (including my YOUNGER brother meeting and marrying his wife). It felt like crap, but as long as you know marriage is a priority for him, if you’re in love and are happy I’d try to focus on that and i wouldnt be too stressed about it.
With that said- waiting is just plain frustrating! I’m sorry 🙁
Post # 4
@undercoverjoan: I can feel the frustration too. I too am still. bloody. waiting!! I completed my degree this year thus leading to my first free summer in 3 years. We went on a number of awesome dates and spent some great time together, started our house hunt but I am still waiting!!
Post # 5
I actually love the jasmine blooming event actually 🙂 its awesome that you dont ask about it because I at least needed a timeline. Sometime in the next six months for me i guess but knowing helped me relax alot because I know that he’s planning something and I can think “this year” instead of “some day”
Post # 6
@MissStruggles: All I need is a suprise and I so dont want to know its coming (even though I do..)
He has gone on and on about getting engaged and getting married to the point of even telling our friends. He’s told me how he wants to do it and that he’s going to love me for the rest of his life (swoon), how he’s never felt this way about anyone else (another swoon).
Has freaked out over a news report on how synthetic diamonds are sold as natural diamonds and was pissed off for days over that report, the clue’s and outright truths have been well and truly outed and then just recently, his last words to me about it were “we’ll do it, who knows knen we’ll have to wait and see” and NOW he’s clammed up like a.. well like a clam!!!
I know him well though and did feel like he was hiding something though and I cant help but be excited!!!
Post # 7
@undercoverjoan: *le sigh* i feel your pain!! I am also still. bloody. waiting. I feel like I’m going crazy sometimes!! What makes it worse, like you mentioned, my SO also brings up marriage and how excited he is to get married, and still NOTHING! I know he’s saving for the ring but I won’t know when he’s purchased it, and we’ve talked about getting engaged before Jan 1, 2014 but there aren’t any particularly special dates that stick out to me from here til then, so who knows?!
To make matters even harder (I shouldn’t say this but… we’re all friends here right?!) one of his best friends just proposed to his gf last night, and she’s literally JUST 21. She’s probably ready to get married as much as me, and they’re ADORABLE together so I am super excited but… I’m 27 and still nothing, lol! Also one of my best friends just got engaged last week, and I’m super excited for both of them but I can’t help but feel a twinge jealous and ‘why not me?!?!?’
What makes me feel horrible is that I know he’s saving so it could DEF be worse bc he can only save so fast, and he’s determined to get me the ring he wants, so I just have to… wait. And be patient… and not mention it. Going crazy, and the engagements of everyone around me just makes it harder! I feel so lucky that he wants to spend his life with me but… I want that to start, like, yesterday! hahaha 🙂
Best of luck to you!!
Post # 8
@gymbunny04: The waiting is irritating!
My SO has been working extra hard for the past few months. He is a fisherman so he could be working hard to cover expenses when the season is off. I can’t help but to think that he is saving for my ring though.
In regards to our house hunting, there have been times where he would say that we should get married so I can move out from my parents and then he would say “It’s best we continue saving for the rest of the year”. He would make me feel as if the proposal is around the corner and then extend it to next year. IT’S IRRITATING!
Post # 9
@tiff-tiff-tiff: aaaaaah i hear you! he might be working hard for your ring, which is exciting… i hate when they stall/move the timeline though omg! so, he literally just texted, “save sept 22 in your calendar, another surprise :)” when i already have saved november 23 (i straight up asked him about that date and he said no that it’s just a fun day for us – he wouldn’t lie to me). and i said does it involve something sparkly?!?! and he goes “maybe ;)” ….
he’s enjoying this WAY too much, lol!!
Post # 10
@gymbunny04: GAH!!!! wouldnt you just love to slap them???!!!!