Post # 1
Hello Bees! I’ve been a lurker for quite some time but haven’t really commented before. I have a confusing Bridesmaid or Best Man situation and wanted some input! Here is the situation…
I’m having my 3 sisters and my fiance’s 1 sister as BMs. I also have 3 friends I want to be considered part of the bridal party (they’ll wear Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses too), but I want them to provide the music for the ceremony, they wouldn’t be walking down the aisle. Is it strange to still consider them BMs? Has anyone else had BMs who didn’t walk down the aisle/stand with the bride?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think that’s fine! You can really do it however you want, and if you want these girls to have the bridesmaid title as well, then go for it! I’m sure they’ll appreciate it! 🙂
P.S. Welcome to the boards!
Post # 5
You can absolutely call them BMs! I had a similar situation and just made sure to list their names in my wedding programs as BMs….
Post # 6
I’d have them dressed in similar colors as the bridesmaids that are walking down the aisle and recognize them as bridesmaids in the program (along with mentioning they are providing the music). Plus you can include them in all the pictures and at the head table then the ONLY difference is that they won’t be walking down the aisle.
Post # 7
I’m totally calling my best girls my bridesmaids, even though it’s only my Maid/Matron of Honor and my FIs sister walking down the aisle. I just want my girls to know that they’re a part of this ceremony and that I want them by my side (even if not literally) as I take this step. I’m not sure about dresses yet though– I think I’ll find a different way to honor them as BMs.
Post # 9
OK maybe this is silly, but what kind of music are they providing? Playing instruments? Singing? I’m just picturing in my head, that you could have them walk down the aisle, just doing it before the music. (Obviously, since they are providing the music.) But let’s say they are playing the violin, guitar, whatever. Have them walk down the aisle with their instruments. Then have them set up shop off to the side, where you would normally put them, and start playing. Then the rest of the BM’s can follow suit.
Technically they still get to walk down the aisle. And wearing the same Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, I think people will get it.
Post # 10
Hm… Thanks for the idea, Tanya. I have a pianist, a violinist, and a soloist. I haven’t decided yet if the pianist and violinist will both be playing the prelude music yet, but if not, your idea could work. 🙂 And actually, not that I think about it, the soloist probably could just walk down the aisle with the rest of the BMs.
Post # 11
How do they feel about it?
Post # 12
Each one of them said they’d do whatever I ask them to, but of course I want them to feel included and special!