Still invite someone that unfriended you?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wouldn’t waste my time. They clearly picked sides! 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Agreed, they decides to unfriend you before knowing your side so I wouldn’t. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

don’t invite them

Post # 6
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Helper bee

You don’t owe anyone an invitation. Unless there is someone you really WANT to be there and feel like explaining your side too I would say don’t give it another thought. Also kudos to you on being the bigger person and not getting caught up in the drama. It couldn’t have been easy to go through all of that while wedding planning.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If they unfriended,I would not invite, regardless of Save the Dates. Sorry, them!

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@jcol1984:  Under no circumstances should you send them an invitation. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wouldn’t, they obviously don’t care enough about you to talk to you about it before deciding they don’t want you in their life…. why would you want them at your wedding? 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i would normally weigh on the side of etiquette but in this case, i wouldn’t waste the stamp.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Don’t invite!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@dulcevida:  +1

@jcol1984:  I normally prefer to err on the side of etiquette, but I agree with PP that these girls should not be invited. They’ve made their position on your “friendship” very clear. I’m sorry you went/are going through this, but good for you for staying above the fray and not sinking to the level of your ex-MOH!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@jcol1984:  Asking someone to save the date and then not extending an invitation is a friendship-ending insult. If you want to put the final nail in the coffin of your friendships, don’t invite them. However, if you do hold out hope of rekindling friendship in the future, you should still invite them. They may decline, but then at least that’s on them.

What on earth happened with your MOH? Did she try to seduce your fiance or something? I can’t imagine what would be so terrible that I would want to remove one of my attendants from the wedding.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@jcol1984:  Hell no, I would NOT want someone there who clearly wasn’t a true friend! I understand it may feel weird if you sent them save the dates but they would probably decline your invitation anyway. I’d rather be the one shutting someone down than being shut down lol.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@jcol1984:  I think when they have very deliberately and publically severed ties with you that you are no longer obligated to invite them.  They have indicated your friendship is unwelcome.  

I have a very dim opinion of anyone who hears one side of a gossipy story and condems another and it shocks me how often it happens.  This is behavior that should be left behind in middle school.  

So, etiquette wise, I think you’re fine not sending them an invitation.  The only reason to do so would be if you wanted to try to salvage the friendships by making the gesture.  

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