still no dress, still hate shopping, going slightly crazy

posted 3 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What should I tell my consultants tomorrow?
    Pretend it's your first appointment so they'll be more excited for you. : (5 votes)
    7 %
    Explain everything and beg for help. : (33 votes)
    45 %
    Act reasonable at the beginning, but have crazy in your pocket ready to go. : (16 votes)
    22 %
    Just glue gun a bunch of glitter and rhinestones onto a potato sack sewn to a bedsheet. : (19 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
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    3959 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Have you tried calling the store ahead of your arrival to ask if they have any of your wish list dresses in stock and what the sample sizes are?   

    And, thanks for the laugh – I can SO relate to what you went through!!  Best of luck finding your dream dress!

    Post # 4
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    918 posts
    Busy bee

    I feel that you should explain everything, but don’t beg.  If they say “oh, we don’t have anything like that here”, then say “okay, thanks anyway, I’ll try elsewhere” and walk out.  If they do actually have something hidden in the back that matches your description, then they will stop you from walking out.  If they let you go, they actually don’t have anything like what you’re requesting, in which case staying and begging for help would just end up being a huge waste of time.

    You’ve already tried on lots of dresses, so you know what suits you and what doesn’t.  Pretending that it’s your first appointment and trying on all those mermaid dresses all over again is a waste of time.

    If they show you attitude, call them out on it, but do so in a polite, professional manner.  Tell them that you’re getting the impression that they’re really not a fan of the type of dress you like, and suggest that perhaps you would be better off with a different bridal consultant.  Don’t pull out the “crazy”, that won’t help anyone.

    ETA: Oh, and if you get the perky consultant addicted to strapless mermaid dresses as you described in your original post, just be firm (but also polite).  Tell her that you’ve tried on lots of those dresses already, you’re not interested in finding a dress that needs extreme alterations, and let her know that you only want to try on the type of dresses you originally described.

    Post # 5
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    55 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    When you put on the right one you will know! You will feel like a princes and  not want to take it off! Don’t settle for less.

    Post # 7
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    4223 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Try shopping for a tulle ballgown with sparkles like AA belle and cinderella then have straps added. 99.9% of dresses do not have straps and must have them added. It should not be nuts expensive. 

    Post # 8
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    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2018

    @HappySky7:  Unfortunately, this seems like the only way for OP to get what she wants, which is unfortunate becuase in my opinion strapless dresses that have straps added always feel weird to wear (it might just be me, I’ve never liked wearing strapless things).

    @TrousseauHorse:  Would you be willing to buy online? Maybe if you have a particular style you really like,  you could try on similar strapless dresses from the same designer to ger an idwa of sizing, then order from RK Bridal, or Best Bridal Prices? 

    Post # 9
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    1111 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @HappySky7:  This!  My ballgown (AA’s 205) is exactly what you described but without straps.  I was told they are very easy/fairly cheap to add on too. 

    Post # 10
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    309 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @TrousseauHorse:  I remember you were going to a Lazaro trunk show.  Did you get to try on that ballgown with the straps?

    Post # 11
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    3557 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    This is one blingy ballgown…maybe too blingy.

    I looked again and I couldn’t really find any other dresses for you to look at and I don’t really have any advice in how to deal with the stores except to be honest.

    Post # 12
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    5228 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Honestly, I would think that there would be more dresses like that. It doesn’t seem like its that outragous of a request for a wedding dress. Have you seen V3558 at David’s Bridal? Its described as a “sequined tulle ballgown”. It doesn’t have straps, but it looks like you could easily have some sparkly straps added to it. I can understand your frustration. I’m looking at dresses for my vowel renewal and it seems like all that’s out there are lace mermaids. As lovely as they are, I wore lace the first time around and want something different.

    Post # 13
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    4223 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @lil_possum:  Yeah,… but IDK what else can be done. Settle for a dress that comes with straps that would have to be altered anyway? : 

    Post # 14
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    274 posts
    Helper bee
    Post # 15
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    1482 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    @JulietFoxtrot:  Who are you going with?? I had a kick ass MOH who dealt with the snooty cow while I had a look through various dresses. I would say ooo I have lots of ideas and list off different combinations the first two important ones (ballgown with straps, then ballgown with sparkles) .Then say its not sparkly enough or is there anything similar with more tulle. See if you can make additions that way. You may surprise yourself with some styles or get some new ideas.

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