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I got married in December of 2007, weighing in at 252 lbs. The heaviest I have ever been in my life. I hated it. I looked awful and nothing I tried on helped my figure any. My wedding photos were my biggest dissapointment.
Now its 2010 and Im a divorcee trying to plan my second wedding. I got determined to lose all the extra weight before I walked down the aisle a second time. In 2 1/2 years I have dropped down to 175, something I never thought possible a few years ago. And while I thought I would be happy this time around, trying on dresses and whatnot. Im still dissappointed. I wanted to look thinner and have more styles to choose from that would look good on me. I feel like maybe Im being too hard on myself, but I just dont want look at myself in the mirror on my wedding day and see myself as overweight.
What do you guys think? Im hoping I can drop another 10 15 lbs before my jan. wedding. But we will see.
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Wow! Congrats on the weight loss. I think you can lose 10-15 lbs by your Jan. wedding. I am planning on losing 10 lbs by my wedding! You look amazing btw!
Wow - You look so great!! Congrats on the weight loss! I don't think you should be stressing about it! You look fantastic. :)
You are being too hard on yourself. You look stunning and should be celebrating your new body! I think there are a ton of dresses you are going to look great in.
But, a lot of times we think our esteem issues stem from the weight when really they are related to other factors in our lives. Might that be something contributing to your situation? Regardless, have fun and enjoy shopping!
UMM I think you look GREAT!! Congrats! And you have plenty of time to loose 10-15lbs by Jan. Technically they say you can loose 2 lbs per week - the healthy way (which is easier said than done) but it gives you plenty of time! But honestly i think loosing that much weight would be too much! You look great now!
you look like a completely different person!!! and way younger. honestly, you are inspiring me. you can totally do it, but you look beautiful as you are.
You are beautiful in each of the pictures.
You don't look overweight at all in the now picture. I think you are being to hard on yourself. Try looking at your pictures of yourself like a stranger would. I think if you can do that, you will see yourself as a confident young woman who has accomplished something very hard to do. You don't even need to lose anymore weight. You are perfect just the way you are.
i also don't think you are in the "full figured" category anymore! congratssss
I think you look great. I know what you mean though. I dropped 43lb.s in 6 months (started the day after I got the ring) and I'd still like to go more. I didn't lose weight because of the dress, I was just sick of a sore back, joints, etc. and thought what better reason to get fit than reach my goal around my wedding day? That's 4 days away for me, and I'm still stuck at 159, my goal was 145. I workout 6 days a week and have been stuck for 5 months. You look solid, like me, maybe 175 is just what your body is supposed to be. I'd have guessed you were closer to 150!
Wow! You look great and I agree with the others that you are being too hard on yourself. Losing 80lbs is a MAJOR accomplishment which I know ain't easy (been there, done that)! I think if you keep it up you will drop the rest of the weight, but if not, you still look great and you should be very proud of yourself! Hang in there and be nice to yourself! :)
wow you look like a totally different person! you are gorgeous and you are being too hard on yourself!
Wow! You look fantastic. I think you think your larger than you are and trust me your not.
It's not about the number, it's about how you feel (and I mean healthy). When you have been heavy and then lose a lot of weight. It takes quite a while to get used to your view in the mirror -- that's why it is a better idea to focus on the healthy aspect of where you are now.
You should be very proud of yourself because this is not an easy process. You look truly beautiful. Best wishes.
Wow, you look GREAT!! Congrats on the weight loss - you clearly worked hard and the results have paid off! Have you really looked at yourself in the picture of you in the 'now dress'? I think that style looks great on you so hold your head high, shoulders back, and walk down that aisle with confidence knowing you look great! 
You look fantastic! I think you're being too hard on yourself. You have lost over 75 pounds, that's a huge accomplishment. I'm not saying you should try to lose more if you want to but I just want to make sure you know that you look amazing the way you are right now.
You look amazing!!! I wouldn't try anything drastic to lose a ton more. Your body is absolutely perfect the way it is! CONGRATS!
Are you kidding me?! You look awesome!! Congrats on the majoy weight loss. Maybe you just haven't found the right dress yet to make you feel gorgeous.
You look great as is, but one thing I've noticed is that weight loss can be very addictive... in a very unhealthy way. Losing weight, looking thinner, and feeling accomplished about it can only make you feel more hyper-aware of any flaw you perceive in your body. Not that this happens to everyone - but it happened to me - and seriously you look totally smoking so maybe that's what's going on here? Like MrsDG said, these feelings are often bottled up in a lot more than just weight.
You have a very pretty figure (and a really flat tummy). I think sometimes, with weight loss, it takes a long time (if ever) for a person to adjust their mental self-image (what they see in the mirror) to reflect their new reality. It looks like you're tall with an average-to-large frame. Don't go overboard trying to look like a waif. I've seen wedding pics of women who overdid it with the pre-wedding diets, and that's not a good look for anyone!
Congrats on your wedding, BTW. I hope it's wonderful the second time around.
Congrats for the huge huge accomplishment! You should be really proud of yourself you look great!
However, if you're not totally satisfied yet, how about focusing more on toning certain areas that bother you than the actualy number on the scale? You might feel totally different even though the weight stays the same.
If you are determined to lose another 10-15 lbs by Jan, I totally think it's possible and still be healthy. My SO's doctor wants him to lose 25 lbs by the end of the year. It's been so hard because my SO just has horrible eating habbits. Also he tends to think he earns a "break" from the diet everytime the number on the scale decreases even slightly!
Congratulations on the weight loss!!! You look fantastic and your dress looks fantastic on you!!!
I think instead of focusing on where you 'could' be you should celebrate where you are. You have so much to feel proud about, overcoming divorce, finding love again and losing so much weight! It's good to have a goal, but recognize all the hard work you've put in so far.
Thank you for all of your comments! It really makes me feel better. I think you are right though, I think my view of myself is a bit off. I am hyper sensitive about my appearance and losing weight. I think about it too much and my mood is effected too drastically by even small weight gains. Im just so worried about putting weight on again.
My fiance tells me Im beautiful and he loves me the way I am, but all I see is my double chin (which is thankfully hard to see in the current picture), my tummy roll and my saggy arms. I think my skin just didnt bounce back the way I was hoping it would, so some things look droopy, and I hate it. Im not even sure losing extra will help with that either.
All in all, I have changed a lot. I honestly was suprised when I posted those pictures. I had forgotten how much I did lose from a visual stand point. And yes, I look pretty good considering. I just need to cut myself some slack I guess. Im never going to be stick thin. Im a 5'8'' big boned woman ^_^
Well done you. You look wonderful.
As some PPs said, it really can take a while to adjust your eyes to actually SEE what's in the mirror! My FSIl lost about 56 lbs a few years ago, and it took her a while to not wear baggy clothes, think of herself as big etc.
You've done an amazing thing, your brain just needs to catch up with your body now!
You're an inspiration, you know that, right? Stop beating yourself up.
Focus on planning your wedding and looking forward to your marriage, and try to have faith that your self image issues will settle out. They will.
Again, well done you!
i think you look great! you are 5 lbs lighter than me, and i've been on a bride dress trying frenzy at the hottest boutiques in nyc... (read size 4 samples!). i think you will look stunning even if you dont lose the weight... you just need to realise this yourself and smile a little more. smiling really makes the difference. just because you were bigger in your last wedding doesnt mean you will be disappointed in your pics this time around... it's like you have faith in this husband... have faith in your beauty!
Get yourself a lovely luxe body moisturiser, that'll help. And maybe take something like Evening Primrose oil - it can be very easy to cut good fats along with the bad when you're dieting. They'll help with the elasticity of your skin, and things like hair nails etc.
Wow! You look great!And at 5'8 I think you are pretty healthy. I say just continue to eat healthy and excercise until your wedding if you want to loose a bit more, but really I say you look wonderfuly now.
You look absolutely great! I bet more dress styles look amazing on you than you realize!
Congratulations on the weight loss! You look beautiful in your dress. It wouldn't hurt to lose another 5 - 10 lbs. but you do look beautiful as is. You look like a completely different person. Let me let you in on a little secret; most women are not happy about their size. I see women complain that they are too fat or too skinny. When I wore a size 3 I complained because my arms were too bony and that I had no boobs. Now that I'm a size 10 (5'7 140 lbs) I complain that I have love handles, big hips / thighs and butt.
Be happy that you have lost the weight that you have lost. Losing 10 lbs. is probably not going to make you much happier. You will probably want to lose 10 more and you will likely find something else you don't like. I have lost over 23 lbs. in the last year or so by running on my treadmill that was otherwise collecting dust. I look so much better than I did at 163 lbs. but I still find flaws and I've come to the conclusion that I will never be 100% happy. At least at my current weight people say I look great and I actually have some boobs, and my arms are not bony but not fat either. lol
My final point, your man loves you for who you are NOW. Losing more weight is not going to make him love you anymore than he already does. Accept who you are and pat yourself on the back for succesful weight loss. I know it's hard work. However, if you want tolose more weight, more power to you. You've already proven that it can be done :)
You look absolutely fantastic! Don't be adfraid to go for the form fitting styles, celebrate your rocking bod!
OMG! You look great! I honestly don't think you need to lose anymore weight. Stop being so hard on yourself!! :-)
Um, I would venture to call you thin, for sure!! You have a great body, I'm so impressed by your weight loss bc that is not an easy thing to accomplish...I know it's not easy to love one's own body (believe me, I know) but you should be really proud of how you look...
I agree with everybody here that you look great! Don't be too hard on yourself. If you truly want to lose more weight, just make sure you are always careful to be eating healthily and not exercising too much. You wil look beautiful on your wedding day no matter what!
I have read that people who lose a lot of weight can suffer from body dysmorphic disorder... maybe you aren't seeing yourself through others eyes because honey, you look awesome!
I understand though... I hope you can get to that place where you are happy with your body. As a woman raised in such a judgemental society it can be difficult to think we are beautiful if we don't have the "perfect" body.. i.e. a size 0.
may i ask how you lost the weight? (some inspiration for the rest of us)
Sweetie, you are being way too hard on yourself. Especially when you have been uncomfortable in your own skin for a long time, you are always hardest on yourself, The pictures you shared don't even look like the sme person to me and I think you look amazing. The world no longer sees a chubby girl when they look at you. Trust us.
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