(Closed) Still not over the death of our dog

posted 5 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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6018 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

(((HUGS)))

What a beautiful dog.  I hope it hurts less this year than last, and you can remember more of the good times.

Truth be told tho we had  a wymeranier that we had to put down when I was 7 and I still miss him.  I can only remember the good times now, and not the pain he was in.  Hang in there.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Was he your first dog? I was that way about my first dog. I have mourned two other dogs since then, and though I loved them all deeply, Brandon in 2003 was the hardest for me. Nunook should have been super hard back in 2010, but I refused to go through the mourning again. (I had lost Tiqui in 2005). So about two weeks after Nunook died, I went and got another Siberian husky–two actually, as I fell doubly in love with the litters that the breeder had.

The new huskies totally helped me. At times, it was hard, because one of the huskies looks like Nunook a little, but as she’s grown, she looks different enough for me to be okay with it. But I can remember Nunook without being so sad and upset. 

What helped a lot was allowing myself to let the dogs go. I had to make myself okay with not thinking about them. What I was doing before was just staring at their pictures, and their stuff and just keeping the death fresh, really. 

But you have to let your baby go, knowing that for his whole life, God gave you the task of taking care of him, and you did it to the best of your ability. You were his caretaker and he left you very happy. That’s something to celebrate.

After these two huskies die, I don’t think I should get more dogs, because I want to make sure I can see all my dogs to rest in peace. And the older I get, I just want to make sure my dogs won’t be left without me, you know? It might be too early for me to stop, because I assume I might be 50 when these two die.

Anyways, I’m rambling, but I hope I helped you some.

Post # 6
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1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Have you considered adopting a dog in need of a home? No dog can replace Max, but maybe rescuing or adopting a dog might make the pain easier to deal with. I’ve never had to put down a dog since I haven’t been a dog owner long enough to put one down, but I’ve found myself in tears at the though of having to put one of them down so I can’t imagine your pain. *hugs*

 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Oh it is normal!  I still miss my childhood dog and he has been gone for a decade.  I now have a sweet puppy from the shelter, and while she in no way replaces my old dog, she helped heal a part of my heart that was empty after he was gone.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

[HUGS].

we lost our cat in march and our dog in august and it still hurts. i know for sure that no other creature will take their place and ease our pain. i don’t know if there’s any words of advice or comfort i could give. probably only that time heals, eventually.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had a rabbit that passed about 3 years ago and I still miss her too. She was really sweet. She was special and although I have my bunny Buttercup now, its not like she waa replaced or anything. I always think about her and if I think too long, Ill cry. My poor bunny baby. 

Post # 10
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1231 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

completely.  dogs are so loyal…. gorgeous puppers  have u gotten another??

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss. I just had to let go of my first dog several days ago so I know how you feel.

We are trying to remember that now we have the ability to save another puppy’s life, and we will be adopting as soon as I am emotionally able. Probably in a couple of months. Nothing could ever replace her, but it does make me feel better to know I can help another dog in need. And the new dog will help to fill up that hole of loneliness.

Post # 12
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695 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s normal, Max looks so sweet! I had a cat named Marty in college, he only lived until 4 (kidney disease) but he was my soulmate cat. Seriously, I can’t even describe the bond we had in words. I’ve had 5 cats after him, I love them to bits, they are my babies, but no cat will ever replace Marty. I still tear up if I talk about him long enough. So, again, normal, I just know he is waiting for me somewhere and playing with all the other cats that went too soon as well.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It’s alright that you feel that way; they become a part of the family, and it’s so hard to let them go.  We had to put down my dog last week, and he was definitely a special dog.  It still hurts to think about.  

Post # 15
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687 posts
Busy bee

Definitely normal. I’m sorry it hurts so much still. I know how it feels because Oct 27 will be 4 years since I lost my first rabbit, the love of my life for almost 8 years… I truly miss him every second of the day.

Interesting that you adopted another dog that is totally different than Max – that’s actually very smart. I went the opposite way and adopted another rabbit whose markings are identical to my first rabbit’s except for two spots on his face. The first few years were very difficult and some days in the beginning were absolute torture because physically while they look the same, but their personalities are soooo different. At times I felt like an imposter had entered my life. That was of course the grief taking over, but it was very real and painful for almost a year following my first rabbit’s passing.

The new bunny (who I’ve had for almost 4 years now) has brought a tremendous amount of joy into my life. He is quirky and opinionated and very stubborn – completely the opposite of my first rabbit. I enjoy his company and having him around has allowed me to share my love with another animal.

Have you found spending time with Toby to be healing? He is a real cutie pie.

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