(Closed) Still on the list, but had a VERY serious talk!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Awww, I’m happy for you, and it sounds like your guy is definitely on the right track!  Can you please get him to call my boyfriend and talk to him about this douche bag behavior, lol, because he is way too comfortable with how domesticated our relationship is.  That old adage about “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” is definitely an issue in his warped head! 

Doesn’t it feel nice to know exactly what your guy wants in the future regarding marriage and engagement??????  Lucky!!!!!  This definitely makes your waiting game much more enjoyable than some of ours!


Post # 4
18645 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m glad that you two had a talk and are on the same page!

Post # 5
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - MacLean Park

What awesome communication skills you have! I’m so excited for you, first for the whole engagement thing, but mostly becuase you can both talk about it so openly, and come to a decision together. Sounds like you have a fantastic relationship, and will have a very successful marriage. Congrats!

Post # 8
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I hear ya, girl!  We have a child together, and he’s told me that he already feels like we’re married.  His family also calls me his wife and stuff which irks me to no end.  My thing is I want the traditional proposal, an actual engagement ring, and a small but real wedding.  Even with him working 2 jobs we don’t have a lot of extra money.  He feels like we’re still engaged, and for the most part I do, too, but still…..sometimes I want to wait for the actual proposal and ring so I can “announce” it to the world.  I guess I’m just waiting for that aspect of it, but I know we’re going to marry eventually.  I feel bad always asking him if he’s saved enough money for a ring yet.  Thanks for your advice, and congrats again on your awesome conversation!

Post # 10
3587 posts
Sugar bee

I’m so glad y’all had a good talk and that weight was lifted off your shoulders. I say weight b/c that is how mine felt until we had a talk like that. I’m so glad your guy isn’t comfortable either.

I had a guy I used to casually date tell me the same thing about the 3yrs. I think for older couples, it is true. But those are the couples I have seen.


Post # 11
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m so glad you guys had that talk!  From the sound of things, I think it’s safe to say a proposal is coming.  Doesn’t that feel better? Ahhhhh…..  πŸ™‚

I agree with your guy about the 3 year thing.  I think couples can end up waiting longer than that for other reasons, like school or finances, but if he’s not sure about you after three years?  That’s a problem.

Again, I’m totally thrilled for you.

Post # 13
188 posts
Blushing bee

How nice! For me too, once the talking started I let out a huge sigh of relief. I’m not able to make comments about weddings/marriage etc without worrying that I’m making him uncomfortable. πŸ™‚

Post # 14
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Congrats on the great talk!!!

And YES, I can’t post from my iTouch even though it has an internet connection….so I’ve been quiet on the boards this weekend for technology reasons.

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