- 8 years ago
Hi Bee’s! I’ve been away for a while due to a broken computer, but I’ve been lurking religiously on my iPhone! P.S. For some reason I can’t post on my iPhone, anyone else having this problem?
Well, a LOT has happened in 3 weeks, and SO and I have sat down and had a serious talk about where we are going in the coming years.
It all started with a comment he made while we were playing a conversation game a while back about how he saw us married in 5 years. Well, 5 years isn’t exactly my time line as I would like to be married sooner than that (we’ve been together 2 years). So I tried to prod him for a more specific time line in which he replied, “I’m not telling, it will ruin the surprise!”
I brought up the 5 years comment last night and told him that I wanted to be married sooner than that. He said he SAW us married in 5 years, not that we were GETTING married in 5 years, that waiting 7 years to get married would be ridiculous, and that he wasn’t necessarily waiting to finish school.
Basically the only thing he is on the wall about is money, which is understandable considering he needs to take out a pretty substantial loan for his masters program he’s starting in a month. Other than that though, we talked about everything such as where/how big of a ceremony/who to invite/etc…
He said he is very comfortable talking about our future and absolutely sees us getting married within the next couple of years. I asked him what “a couple of years” meant and he said 2-3 years, and engaged sooner than that because, “it takes at least a year to plan a wedding.”
So, I am soooo happy with our conversation last night and no longer feel in the dark about our relationship progression. I told him last night that sometimes, after moving in together, boyfriends don’t feel it’s necessary to get married because “everything is fine just the way it is” and they get comfortable. He replied with, “That is a douche bag move!! Unless it’s mutually agreed upon, that is an extremely douche bag move to pull, to drag a girl along and not marry her! You can tell your girls on your forum that I said that too!!” hahaha it was funny. So I am relieved that he isn’t “comfortable” with the way things are!. 🙂