- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
So I’ve avoided posting this because I don’t want to feel this way, but I do.
I was the first of the grandkids (12) to get married, though I’m not the oldest. The oldest 2 got married in October and November. So my oldest sister is the only of the oldest for grandkids not to be married.
I thought it was always kind of assumed that I would get married first because I’m more of a settle down type, and she’s more free spirited. She was dating a guy that she was pretty serious about, but he was living abroad in Israel for work. Notice the past tense? Yeah, they broke up a week after our wedding.
My little sister broke up with her boyfriend (who she had been dating longer than my husband and I had) a week before our wedding.
My mom, in the weeks/months prior to the wedding, and after, and still kept reminding me how jealous my older sister was (though she never acted that way towards me, but I did know she was hurting) and how depressed my little sister was (she broke up with the guy, but still, break ups suck).
They were fine on the wedding day, but my little sister especially moped up until the wedding. And I know part that was just being sad about “losing” their sister.
Anyway, I’m frustrated that my mom keeps guilting me about it. And I am a little annoyed that they couldn’t pep up a bit more for the wedding. I know its not all about me, and break ups suck, but I am still just sad my sisters were sad on my wedding day. I pictured it to be a little more joyous of an experience than it ended up being (in that area anyway).
My mom thinks I’m being unreasonable about this. I’m not mad, and I haven’t talked to my sisters about it, and I’m not harboring ill feelings. I’m just frustrated that my mom can’t see that I’m sad about it all. What do you think?