Post # 1
I have my 2 best friends and my sister as Maid/Matron of Honor. I still feel like I should have included them in the wedding party. One of them is getting married also, and the other 2 will be Bridesmaid or Best Man at her wedding, so I thought that it would be ANOTHER dress they would have to buy, and, my wedding party would then be big, and I always leaned towards the small Wedding Party.
AGH! Words of wisdom? Its too late to ask them right?
Post # 3
I know EXACTLY how you feel… I only had 5 girls and 5 guys (1 is my fiances brother and cousin, and the other 3 is my bro and cousins), then I felt bad one of my cousins wasn’t in it so I asked him (in February), then I found a cousin who just moved down was “sad” he wasn’t in it, so I asked him leaving one more guy cousin who I felt was left out the ended up asking him (both in March)..whew! So then i needed to even out the girls…all in all 8 GUYS AND 7 GIRLS!
Really you have to consider how much it does bother you (it obviously bothered me alot), and the expenses for both sides. Meaning, will they be able to get their dresses, shoes, etc and will you be able to get them all gifts that you originally wanted to get them (i am now spending easlily a $1000 for Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen gifts). Hopefully nobody gives you the “guilt trip” because everyone should understand that things like this can get expensive and disorderly..but as always…do what makes YOU and youre FH happy!
OH and I don’t think it’s too late..My wedding is in November and asked the last 2 guys and girls in March : )
Post # 4
I don’t think you need to ask them unless you really, really want to. And your fiance has 3 more people he really, really wants to have. Perhaps have them do readings or otherwise participate.
Post # 5
Don’t feel bad about it. Ask them to do readings! That will make them feel included. I asked my Future Sister-In-Law to select something from the Bible to read at ours.