Post # 1
My ??? ( I don’t know what to call him right now) and I have known each other for the past nine years, we have been together for the last two and living together for the last year. We are getting married in October and our wedding is in November. He already asked my parents for my hand in Marraige as per our tradition however he still has not asked me!!! We have obviously dicussed getting married and we are already planning the wedding. I have even got a dress!!!
Sunday was our engagement party of sorts and i finally asked when if he ever plans to ask me. He told me that he has the cash to buy the ring but he does not have time to shop for it!!! Then he shows me the money he had saved up!!
It was my last straw!!! I threw the worst tantrum on earth! Ripped a few pictures, tore up the roses he got me earlier that night and broke a vase he pain strikingly glued together after accidentaly breaking it earlier this year. I loved that Vase. It was my favourite vase.
I cried myself to sleep last night and would not let him touch me. He left before i woke up but left a note apologising and hoping i still love him. I love him. I want to marry him. I also want him to ask, ring or no ring. Is that too much to ask for????
Please advise, I don’t know if i can face him tonight.
Post # 3
Men can be stupid.
Apologize, get on with it. I have a huge ego and apologizing for me is the hardest thing. Just swallow your pride, explain how you are just at the end of your rope.
Go online, pick out rings you like and email them to him. Go to the store alone or with a friend and try on rings and find your size. Do the legwork for him, then let him choose. If he still makes excuses, I think he’s more than just “too busy”.
Post # 4
I don’t understand why you threw such a tantrum. You’re getting married soon, you just had an engagement party, he has the money for the ring, and he said that he will ask you to marry him. To me, it makes sense that he’s been really busy and hasn’t had a chance to get your ring yet with all the effort and time that goes in to planning a wedding. Is it a little strange to do things backwards like this? Yes. But it’s obviously going to happen. Relax.
Post # 5
Yikes! That tantrum was probably not the best way to go about things…
Why exactly are you upset? No ring? No get down on one knee proposal?
To me it sounds like he probably thinks those things arent all that important since you’ve already had an engagement party and started planning. If it is to you, I agree with pharmy – apologise, talk to him about the importance of it to you and go from there. And then do the legwork for him 🙂
Good luck x
Post # 6
I must have gone temporarly insane. He had a candle lit dinner prepared when i got home last night and we made up. I apologized, he apologized and asked for help in picking the ring. I think planning this wedding is driving me crazy.
Post # 7
@sewes: Aww, I’m glad everything worked out. At least wedding planning doesn’t last forever!