Post # 1
I TOTALLY get that I, as someone who has never had children cannot even begin to understand the pain that comes from losing a child, especially one that was close enough to delievery to be viable or who was term/ a very young baby when they died. I understand that people grieve different ways and think that, if it helps you, photos of you with your child after their death are a wonferful way to heal.
But tonight I saw something that I just thought was… off. It was a picture of a mother and a baby, with the words “Mother’s Last Kiss” and then a name and date. On a tshirt. I feel like there are some things that are healthy for healing, when done privately, but to print a tshirt with a picture of your deceased child on it? And not like, from when they are alive, but the child is very apparently no longer alive IN the picture for the entire world to see? It just was weird. Of course I have also never really liked the shirts that are quite popular around here in certain communuties to have a picture (and usually just some random snap shot) of a person printed on a shirt with something like “We miss you, RIP” with the person’s name (and usually not their real name but a nickname), DOB and date of death… I again get that people grieve differently but it just seems an odd thing to wear in public; on your shirt…
Am I the only one who doesn’t quite get the shirt or doesn’t think that a tshirt printed with a deceased child on them are totally appropriate?
Post # 3
@chasesgirl: I am so with you on this one. I had a girl who posted her dead baby’s pic on FB. It creeped me out for an entire month.
Post # 4
Fiance just showed me yesterday that a girl he went to HS with posted a damn VIDEO of their baby being taken off life support! We were floored!
Post # 5
They really had a pic of the baby when it was dead and put it on a shirt. That’s kinda gross. I get putting a picture of someone that has passed on a shirt, but seriously the pic should be from when they were alive not dead. Remember their lives, not their deaths.
Post # 6
i’ve never seen anything like that before… very odd… and creepy
Post # 7
That is terrifying. and private.
Post # 8
And I don’t really “get” the shirts or whatever either. I am a bit creeped out by them, unless it’s like a shirt for a fundraiser in their honor or something. Like a friend of mine’s brother passed while we were in HS but the family created a memorial scholarship that they give out to like 6 HS seniors every year, and they have motorcycle rides in his honor and such, to raise the money. I don’t even think those have his picture on them, now that I think of it.
Post # 9
any of this public stuff, tshirts, facebook, whatever — I definitely think it’s weird.
Post # 10
As a woman who has lost a child, I can see getting a picture put on a shirt for a “In memory of” walk.. or pregnancy or loss awareness/walk. But to wear it outside of that I couldn’t see doing that.
With that being said. In no way would I be able to do it
Post # 11
When I was pregnant I was on a social networking site for pregnant women. One of the rules was no posting pictures of deceased babies as it’s upsetting to others. There were a number of women who suffered the tragic loss of their child and posted the picture anyway. I never flagged them (maybe others did) cause I can’t even imagine the pain of losing your baby and I understood that it was part of their grieving.
However, wearing a picture like that in public is another story. It’s not just empathetic mothers looking, it’s everyone. People find images like that disturbing, tragic as they are. I would imagine someone doing that is just trying to deal with a terrible situation and not thinking about how it might offend others.
Post # 12
@KittenB: It didn’t offend me so much as make me confused. ESPECIALLY since the girl wearing the shirt was NOT the woman in the photo…
Post # 13
Yeah I get having the photo privately as a way of remembering them but it wear it around is very strange. I remember when the 19 kids and counting people lost their baby (would have been 20th) there was a photo that got released and all these people freaked out about it… it was a beautiful, tasteful, and not creepy (IMO) picture. I think its a little weird they released it to the press, but I get why they took it and kept it. So yea a picture like this i kind of get, but why on earth would anyone wear it on a shirt?
Post # 14
@chasesgirl: That is strange…Personally, it upsets me to see pictures like that. Even this one of the Duggar baby’s hand is making me a little teary 🙁
Post # 15
I think that’s a very private thing, I’m not sure it should be made so public in my opinion. I get that they should always be remembered but a t-shirt seems a very unusual way to remember if they aren’t fundraising. I would understand keeping photos and the tags etc but not wearing something that anyone can judge (except perhaps a picture in a locket but that’s hidden again you see). Just my opinion
Post # 16
One of my FB friends posted a picture of her, her husband and their stillborn child on her wall for all of her “friends” to see. It was disturbing and something that I’ll never get out of my head. I can’t even imagine what it feels like to go through that but I personally think that posting pictures on the internet or wearing a tshirt with a dead body is inappropriate. Other people aren’t given the choice whether or not they want to see these images so they shouldn’t be posted or worn around town. I know that everyone has their own way to grieve but something like this should really be kept private.