Stolen cards at wedding??

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@lollygagon:  We’re going to keep the gift table with the card box away from the exit and our DOC and her assistant will be keeping an eye on it and emptying the card box periodically through out the night (of course my mom will be with them when they empty it and take it to the bridal suite.)

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Awhile back it happened to a fellow bee. :/

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Our box was right next to our sweetheart table, it would have been really obvious if someone had tried to take it!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We had a card box and didn’t have any issues.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

It didn’t at ours!

But I’ve heard of Bees worried about addict family members who might steal the cards. I think that’s more likely than a stranger taking them!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We’ll have a cardbox as well.  I know this is something I need to worry about, becasue of certain people we had to invite.  I think a box is a good way to deter this behavior! I have one similar to @MeiFrancis:‘s and the top will be glued on.  (Meaning they’d have to lift up the entire box if they wanted to take it.)

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had a friend who had her card box stolen. It was in a little birdcage and it was next to the door. They had estimated (from guests telling them) about $8000 were stolen. Some guests who wrote checks were nie enough to re-write them, but it was still embarassing because they didn’t find out until the end of the night and they had to inform the guests later.

 

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had a card box, and asked my DOC to keep an eye on it.  It’s not that I didn’t trust my guests, but you never know about the staff…

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

my friend had her cardbox stolen and thousands of dollars were in there, that’s why i was so crazy about someone watching it at our wedding.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My FSIL had multiple cards stolen out of the cardbox at her wedding. The box itself was not stolen but was obviously tampered with by the end of the night. There were a few guests (teenage step-children of her uncle) she and her family suspected were responsible for it but the money was never recouped. Her card box was in the lobby of the venue that was unattended for most of the reception, so I would recommend putting your card box somewhere where multiple people, whether guests or staff, will always be to minimize the risk.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@JackiBean:  $8000 gone?  I would be LIVID!

Some guests didn’t rewrite their checks?  That’s awful

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

@FleeSircus:  well, theoretically at least some got cashed.  Not everyone can afford to give twice. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

we found like 75% people gave cash and not cheques, so ya if that was stolen, i wouldnt have expected the ppl who gave us money to give us money again

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am worried about this with my reception as well, because I have some an unfavorable person who I had to invite (brother’s girlfriend, blech).

We will be leaving immediately following the ceremony to take pictures. Since our reception and ceremony are in the same location, I would assume most people will bring their cards/gifts as they arrive. My plan is to have a lock on the door of our birdcage (hidden under a ribbon) & also as we go to take pictures my mom will put it in her car.

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