- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
Well, I’ve come to the realizeation that there is no way around it. If you want to have a nice wedding in the San Francisco bay area, you’ve gotta spend some serious dough.
My fiance and I have been engaged now for over a month. I remember coming home from our surprise vacation proposal and meeting with some of our married friends who jokingly said “Congrats! We’re so happy for you. Now get ready to write a check for 30K!” We laughed and I piffed at the idea that WE would spend THAT much on a wedding. Instead, we thought we would have a month long honeymoon… boy was a wrong…
We decided we would have a small (50 person) wedding, during off season (April) and keep it simple. That should cost us (I was thinking) ah, around 15K right? No. I have searched high and low and each is the same. There is a facility fee for the space, some even have a ceremony fee and there is always a required Food & Beverage minimum. huh?
When did hotels, wineries, golf clubs, country clubs all get together and decide to create these outlandish minimums? I was completely blown away. $15,000 food a beverage minimum? Regardless that its off season and we only have 50 people? What am I going to feed my grandmother, caviar and dom perignon champagne? Ridiculous.
So after a month of calling, emailing and looking over numerous proposals this is the breakdown for the place we have a date on hold for. Granted this is in Napa:
Facility fee – $4,000
Food and beverage (only wine and beer) – $ 5,338
With tax, 20% service fee and simple rentals (linens, tables, chairs, china, flatware, stemware etc) comes to a wopping:
Total – $13,883.71
Throw in flowers, officiant, photography, videography, favors, cake, wedding insurance (yes required), DJ/band etc. etc. puts us at about $23,000 still havent factored tax on that yet.
Yes, we’re weird. I work for an accounting firm so naturally we’d run all the numbers first before making decisons on where we would get married.
Does this seem normal?
Please take the poll and if you could give me the breakdown as well and maybe even tell me where you had your wedding. Thanks Ladies!