Post # 1
I wish people would STOP asking us anything baby related:
- are you pregnant? Um, no. I am drinking wine.
- are you guys trying? No. But if I was, and we were having a difficult time trying to concieve… wouldnt that be awful?
- When are you guys thinking about having kids? Well lets see, last week when we saw you i told you our timeline (about 2 years)… nothing has changed, and it hasnt been about 2 years yet.
- Why are you guys waiting? Because, its our choice!! None of your business.
I guess this is normal to keep getting the baby questions, but to get questioned so often by the same people is sooo annoying. And I do have a bit of baby fever so it makes me sad that school gets in the way of baby making. but i wish people would STOP asking!!
Thanks for listening 🙂
Post # 3
Aww I hear ya. Just try not to let it bother you..although I know once I’m married next year I’ll start getting those questions and will probably feel the same way you do =(
Post # 4
I agree! People were asking us about babies at OUR WEDDING! We just got married geez! At least no one has bothered us lately!
Post # 5
Yeah.. I am wondering if itll stop after our 1 year.. or does it just get worse? I know with my MIL it will get worse. @ every holiday she says… “maybe this time next year we will be celebrating a future grandbaby.” Jeez.
Post # 6
I haven’t heard anything from people this past year but some of the people that bothered me before, I don’t talk to much.
Post # 7
As a student too I totally feel your pain. I was reading a similar post a couple of months ago and thought “That would never happen to me. People know me well enough not to ask such questions.” I was utterly and completely WRONG! My FFIL has baby fever (So are you two sure you want to get married? In that case, when are we going to have some grandkids???). We went to a family gathering for my cousin’s baby and got asked by several people (You two will be next! In about a year or so we will be celebrating your baby.) Ugh. It’s both annoying and bad manners! Whats even more irritating is that none of these people inquire about graduation or my life plans!
Post # 8
My favorite is “so how’s married life treatin’ ya?”
Um…it’s great, thanks??
I don’t get this question… if it were bad (it’s not), would they really want to hear it?
Post # 9
@ Laylabelle I agree with the married life question. I know its only small talk and people are just trying to be nice.. but what is there to say? AND when I go into some random story about my husband their eyes get glazed over and they really look bored. hahaha. so stop asking if you dont wanna hear! haha.
@ kieshamichaels I am so glad to hear someone else with my dillema! School is so important to me, and being the first person in my family to graduate is so awesome, but no one seems to care in light of baby talk. I have told people (esp MIL) numerously that student teaching is 2 semesters and there is absolutely zero time for a baby until school is finished. When people hear I am in school I think that they must not take me seriously or remember anything I say and that is so insulting!
Post # 10
Why do people think it’s OK to ask personal questions like that? I would NEVER, ever, ever.
I have a friend who has been trying to conceive for years, and it’s so brutal for her when people ask that question. So she and her husband finally decided to adopt this year, and now she gets, constantly, “Oh, well now that you’ve adopted a baby of course you’ll get pregnant!” She finds that incredibly painful, too. People just don’t think. Jaws just gotta be flappin’ at all times.
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Amazingly, we haven’t had anyone ask us yet.. but it’s probably because everyone who knows us well enough to ask us also knows we’re trying to pay down our student loans first. That, and that I’d sock them if they asked me.
Post # 12
I’m not even married yet and I’ve started fielding questions about having a baby, so I can’t even imagine what will happen after the wedding!
Post # 13
I feel like you can never win. When you’re single everyone asks “When are you going to get a boyfriend? Why are you still single?”. Then you find someone and it’s “When are you getting married?”. Then you get engaged and you get “When are you having kids??? Give us babies!!!!”. Good lord people! Can’t we all just relax and enjoy being where we are right now!!!!! Stop harrassing me!!!!
Post # 14
@bakerella LOL, SO true!!! Its never gonna end!!!
@ fontgoddess youre sooo right. I work with and meet tons of newlyweds and I never ask them the Baby question. You NEVER know what someone is going through, and to ask such a personal question could really hurt someone.
Post # 15
When am I having kids? When you stop asking rude questions.