(Closed) STOP ASKING…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
16217 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I know it’s frustrating! I think it’s happened to many of us. My FI and I were together for almost 4 years before getting engaged so we got it all the time, too. I’d just smile and say “We’ll see” and then enjoy daydreaming about when it would actually happen. 🙂

Post # 4
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ugh this used to annoy me so much. It only came from peopel I wasn’t very close with like work colleagues and acquaintences. Because everyone close to me knew that I was on the edge of my seat waiting for DH to propose!! There really is no good response, even if you produce some kind of actual timeline for the person asking they are never satisfied and usually become argumentative, claiming you should hurry up and do it sooner. Thanks. Like I didn’t think of that!

Post # 5
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269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have been getting this question for a while now…my answer is we are going pass on the whole marriage thing and just live in sin or he would be really made if I got engaged now considering he is deployed.  

Post # 6
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1391 posts
Bumble bee

Oh girl, I feel you. I will never forget the first time I was asked that question. I was 12 and a pastor thought I was 19 and was asking when I was going to get married. I have never, ever looked older than I am. I’m 27 and the other day I was carded at the mall. The MALL! You know, because you have to be over 16 to be there alone on weekends? Yeah. 27. Thanks dude. Anyway, now that SO and I have been together for almost 4 years it’s inevitable. Everyone else is married, I’m creeping towards 30 and we’ve been living together for 3 years. They ask and I pretty much always say, “I dunno, you’d have to ask him.” I think what makes me the most annoyed is that they ask me and it makes me wonder, and then I get angry at SO for not having done it yet! Just let me be and I won’t think about it, jerk-faces.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

@artichokey: I’m 27 and the other day I was carded at the mall. The MALL! You know, because you have to be over 16 to be there alone on weekends? Yeah. 27. Thanks dude.

LOL that’s funny.  I was reaching for a free sample (some chicken thing) at Costco and the lady goes “little girl, go ask your mother if you can have this.”  I was 22 at the time.  >_<  I pulled out my license to prove it.

Post # 8
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I feel your pain!! I get that all the time, from everyone!! It does not matter if I know you or not… lol  Its super annoying!! All I want to say, I dont know, but thank you for rubbing it in!

Post # 9
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12 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

After you get married the next thing is… When are you going to have babies?

Post # 10
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2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Tree3910: And after the baby the next one when are you gonna have some more?

Post # 11
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Thank god our families just gave up on us after 4 years (with wedding and babies).  We’ll have been together almost 7 years by our wedding day.  The engagement was actually a pleasant surprise to everyone because it took so long (for them, not for us).

Post # 12
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296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

agreed. we have a “potential” date set, but until we can start saving some money, and some other things fall into place, I do not want to set a permanent date because I’m not sure if it will happen then. So yes, please, stop asking. Don’t worry…I’ll let you know when it’s happening! I won’t forget to tell you or anything! ahhh!!

Post # 13
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@artichokey: “I think what makes me the most annoyed is that they ask me and it makes me wonder, and then I get angry at SO for not having done it yet!”

Ha ha, I’ve done this too. I end up avoiding people all together just so I don’t hear this question anymore. Why do they always ask me, and not him? They even direct the question at me when we’re both in the same room. You have to wonder if sometimes people are trying to start a fight.

Post # 14
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938 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

 @Tree3910:, @picturemeurs:

That’s right! It never ends.  When are you getting engaged/married/babies/more babies/buying ahouse/retiring/have grandchildren?

Sheesh. Yup, we do just have to get used to people asking annoying questions.

Post # 15
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472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’ve just started replying with, “TOMORROW!” because otherwise I get a really annoyed look on my face and the, “Your guess is as good as mine!” answer threatens to fly out of my mouth. As if their lives will be any more fulfilled, because it seems like half the time the people who bug you the most are the people who just like to hear themselves talk and be the obnoxious one at a party. I can’t tell you how many times we heard, “YOU GUYS ARE NEXT!” at the wedding he was in last weekend. Growl.

Post # 16
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1279 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

haha I HATE this question! I recently absolutely cracked it because my boyfriend said that he never gets asked! I said thats because they ALL ask me!! I get asked by everyone at work, by my friends, his friends, our families… it never ends! I wish they would all start asking him so he would realise just how often people ask!

There is no good response to it… I have tried everything but it doesnt stop people asking the next time they see us!

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