Stop Buying Me Things!!!

posted 3 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
Member
694 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@westcoast_girl:  I feel you. What about baking a whole bunch of cookies and making little christmas tins?

Post # 5
Member
607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

i just make a variety of baked goods and little treats. i fix them up and make them all festive and give those out. i hope a lot of these people aren’t expecting gifts back just because they gave you something! 

 

 

Post # 7
Member
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Tell me about it! FI and I agreed to only buy two items, plus usual toiletries/chocolate for stockings. He’s bought me three EXPENSIVE items, plus toiletries, some of which are the same price as the big presents.

 

It’s amazing of him to buy me lovely things, but I can’t afford to buy too much – that’s why we set a limit in the first place. Really worried that on Christmas morning he’s going to be super disappointed! 🙁

Post # 8
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@westcoast_girl:  I feel the EXACT same way!  I hate how commercialized Christmas is.  I don’t want anything, and I hate feeling obligated to buy gifts for people that they will mostly not need or want.

Post # 10
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1193 posts
Bumble bee

I buy gifts for whoever I feel I have a “gifting” relationship with (close team members, boss, select friends, etc). I also give greeting cards to others in my office. If I get gifts from anyone else, I just graciously accept (especially because they are always small <$5).

I like to give gifts, and I have never been offended if someone didn’t get me something “in return”. In my mind, I like to think it goes both ways? 

Post # 11
Member
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@westcoast_girl:  OMG! I JUST thought the same thing this morning and I even was trying to gauge who would be the most upset at me if I dared try to “go help vaccinate poor kids in some third world country”…lol

Post # 12
Member
889 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Christy42213:  Same here… Have you ever watched The Big Bang Theory and heard Sheldon’s theory on gift giving or seen the episode where he bought about 20 different sized gift baskets for Penny in varying denominations to have on hand so he could see which one he needed to give her to be “even”…??? I feel like that!

Post # 13
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

@westcoast_girl:  Exactly!  If I really need something, I go buy it.  So there’s really nothing I need or want to ask other people for.  The only thing I can even think of that I want right now is a glass display case that’s over $1000.  If I could find a cheaper one, I’d buy that instead.  I’ve done a lot of research and it’s the only one I can find that has the right dimensions I need.  If everyone gave me money towards the display case, I could actually get what I want for Xmas.  Instead, everyone is going to go out and buy me a bunch of stuff I don’t like that I’ll end up giving to charity, which is what happens every year.  Plus, I don’t wait for holidays to give people gifts.  If I find something they would really like, I buy it and give it to them.  I don’t see the point in waiting months for Christmas to come around.  I hate feeling obligated to buy things just because society says to.

@Billsgirl:  And then he gave them all to her, LOL!  Yeah, that was a funny episode.

Post # 15
Member
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I totally feel you. And I hate to say it, but I’ve stopped feeling so guilty. I give who I give to and don’t sweat the others.

If people giving me gifts *expect* something back, I’m sorry.

Post # 16
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

My family doesn’t really exchange gifts anymore. I bought for my mom & her husband, fi, my brother & his fiance, and my niece [whom got the most presents of all].

Normally I get smaller type gifts like those holiday tea or coffee gift sets, and in return make or bake something for the gifter [my co workers are very fond of my peanut butter fudge, which really isn’t all that expensive to make]

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