Post # 1
I work as a temp attorney in NYC. There are around 200 of us crammed into a room. We sit about 12 inches apart at tables with computers and have to work at least 10 hour days. Well, my neighbor at work has been getting hammered every single day for the last two months or so. It is so bad that in the afternoons he can’t keep his head up and often stumbles around. Yesterday it got so bad he tripped and fell in the aisle.
I feel like I am ready to snap on this guy. I used to think he was pathetic, or feel sorry for him. and now it has gotten to the point that I cannot even talk to him. I am just too pissed. In the mornings he acts like “everything’s cool” but I can’t even make small talk with him because I am angry from the day before.
It is SO HARD to sit next to someone who is drunk all day. He moves around, talks too much, and is straight up annoying. He brings in three coke bottles filled with booze and starts drinking them around 10 am. He used to do one bottle a day, but it’s gotten worse and worse. Usually by 1 he is drunk. By 3 he is incoherent. I really want to have a discussion with him, but if it doesn’t go well, I have to continue sitting by him. I’m not sure it’s worth the risk.
Part of me wants to report him to the bosses, but I know I would feel guilty for causing someone to lose his job. Him and his wife just bought a house. I am ready to SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 3
uhhhh … wait, what? As in, WHAT?!?!? That is insane!!! I would absolutely report him to the bosses. As much as you may feel sorry for him, this isn’t like some mistake that he’s made that he can’t help and could happen to anyone. Routinely getting drunk at work is 10000% something he should be fired for.
I can’t even imagine. When DH has a couple too many beers now that I can’t join him, I tell him to shut up and go somewhere else in the house. Haha I have low tolerance for drunks when I’m sober, and AT WORK is a pretty reasonable time to expect people to be sober.
Post # 4
wow…I cant believe your boss hasn’t noticed this. I would tell someone asap. I know you will feel guilty, but this man needs help and maybe it will benifit him to get a wake up call. I’m sorry this is happening 🙁
Is he driving home?
Post # 5
@Kjeff760: no, he takes a train.
Post # 6
Sounds a bit like developing alcoholism to me. Maybe getting reprimanded/fired is the wake up call that he needs to realize what he is doing is not ok. I have never heard of any job that endorses drinking on the job except for being a brewmaster for Miller.
Post # 7
@MrsTVLover: Has anyone else you work with noticed? I can’t believe he’s getting drunk at work!
ETA: I know you are frustrated with him, but I am a little sad for him because he obviosly has a very serious problem!
Post # 8
@MrsTVLover: Why have you let this go on this long without reporting him? This isn’t an issue of having a drink, or messing around on company time, his actions can impact the clients. Report him, now.
Post # 9
Could you report him anonymously? Slip a note under the bosses door on your way out?
Post # 10
I can’t believe you haven’t reported him already. Getting wasted at work every day is 100000% something he should be fired for. Honestly, nothing else should even be considered.
Post # 11
Yeah, this is totally unacceptable. Report him to a manager you know’s discreet and won’t throw you under the bus. Alchoholics can get vindictive and you don’t want problems, so you need to be careful about who you tell this to.
Post # 12
You need to tell your boss, his drinking could affect clients who rely on SOBER legal assistance.
Post # 13
Maybe I will report him anonymously. The boss comes and visits us every few days. Everyone who sits near us is aware of what is going on, and everyone told me not to report him. Everytime he gets up, everyone talks about how hammered he is. He isn’t dealing directly with clients… we are working for big banks. I have been so reluctant to report him because I like to stay under the radar. Things used to be much more lax, until someone reporting people stealing time. Now we have to send an email everytime we leave the desk to take a break or go to the bathroom. I am worried what the ramifications would be on the rest of us.
Post # 14
@MrsTVLover: why does everyone say not to report him? That is kind of mean honestly – he obviously needs help. It is also very inappropriate at the work place. My first thought it because the company may have to deal with it. I know in some places you cannot fire an employee because of alcoholism (it is considered a disease) and if he pleas that work stress has to do with it, the company may even have to help pay for rehab.
Anyways, yes i think this should be reported. I mean i would feel bad if he lost his job, but something has to give. God forbid he should pass out and hit his head, overdose, siezure etc at work. Say you are concerned by his behavior and think that his use of alcohol at work should be investigated.
Post # 15
Honestly, I don’t think you have to directly report him. We have, or rather, HAD, people like that at our work and honestly, everyone noticed. It’s just a matter of time before it trickles up the chain of command. I get that you would feel guilty that he may lose his job but 1) there’s someone else that needs a job that deserves this job 2) why does he get to get paid for doing subpar work, if any at all, when the rest of your team has to pull his weight and pick up the slack “for free”?
Working with people who are drunk or hungover is a PITA and affects the whole team. It also reflects poorly upon that department or the office. It’s one thing to have one or two off days but if this is a perpetual thing, it has got to stop.