Post # 1
Ok so I’m not engaged, I don’t have a timeline for ,my BF, because I don’t want him to feel pressured into doing something he isn’t ready for. However, I know this is the man i want to marry and spend the rest of my life with. We have lived together for 2 years and have a puppy(child) together.. So naturally I am addicted to this site and love looking at all the prety pictures and what not and start thinking about my own wedding, whenever that is. So I totally just picked out the location of where I want to take e-pics, when the time comes… Is that insane? Should I just stop myself now? Did anyone else plan things before the proposal? like we are proabbly a year out from a proposal in my head, maybe even longer in his…
Post # 3
Well, while I’d like to say ‘go for it’ and start looking…that’s what I did and it totally made me nuts. I kept waiting and waiting, and was planning everything without actually booking vendors, and it just made waiting harder.
It’s totally up to you…
Post # 4
Yeah I mean I don’t know if I “waiting” because I don’t mind that its not going to happen for a while.. So I’m not super antsy about it, I jus tlike planning things and iits fun for me to find all of thie things i want fro my weddin, someday. But I don’t know if browsing and seeing all the nice things is going to send me over into “waiting impatiently”…. Which is where I don’t want to be… I don’t know…
Post # 5
Just ask yourself if anything you’re doing is something that would really weird out your boyfriend if he knew. If it is, you can probably consider reigning yourself in a little. If not, go ahead if it makes you happy.
Post # 6
That’s a good rule of thumb, thanks. I usually ask him questions starting out with “would you be freaked out I…” he never seems weired out so that’s good. yeah if I can’t tell him out it maybe I should cool it lol
Post # 7
I did a ton of research pre-engagement. I think at one point, DH and I had a conversation about it (since we had discussed our future marriage, and the engagement too FOREVER and a day).
The only thing I’d caution you about is falling in love with a particular plan. I had a lot of details figured out (venue ideas/options, caterer ideas/options, font, invitation style, colors, etc). When it came to the actual planning, DH didn’t agree with my ideas… so, my ‘perfect plan’ had to be scrapped as we came up with OUR plan.
OUR plan ended up being the perfect plan …. but it was just a little discouraging at first – since I didn’t realize how involved DH would want to be in the process and how much input he’d have. So while I had been dreaming of a particular venue.. it didn’t end up being that way. Which was fine… but I am still emotionally attached to that venue and still think about ‘my’ wedding there… if that makes any sense.
Have fun dreaming… but make sure it doesn’t get too out of control! 🙂
Post # 8
Right now, we’re pretty much engaged, but I’m not going to say we’re engaged until I get my ring 😉 That said, I guess it makes me a waiting bee, but I am always looking for ideas. The other day I was at Marshalls and they had dresses in the exact shade of pink that I want my bridesmaids to wear FOR $40! I swear I just about bought them then and there. I really wanted to, but thought that might be a bit crazy haha.
Post # 9
@mg1363: haha i love this story