Post # 1
My SO’s friend posted this article on my facebook wall this morning (rude, huh?)
Basically, it talks about how insane women have become when it comes to obsessing over all things wedding. They say it is a huge waste of time planning out all the details while not engaged (or some may not even have a SO). It specifically mentions that in 2012 there were 14,974 of us on the Bee who were not engaged (thats an awful lot! lol)
Personally, I think this article was a huge buzz kill. I’m definitley nearing the “wedding obsessed” but after 6.5 years of dating my SO it’s bound to happen, right?
Post # 3
I’m going to be honest, I totally agree with the article.
this notion of a perfect day puts SOOOO much pressure on a bride and her groom. It won’t be perfect. Ever. Something will go wrong/not the way you intended.
Planning a wedding while not even dating anyone is just silly. It totally feeds into the bride mentally of it being HER day. It’s not. It’s OUR day. The groom gets a say in how things go and what they look like.
I do fully believe in the wedding industry. I am having a wedding but spending time on sites like Weddingbee and The Knot etc make us think that there are things that WE HAVE TO HAVE. In reality, no one will notice if you don’t have personalized napkins or that the stranot dont match the color scheme.
Post # 4
I think the article’s unfair. Thinking about weddings often is just a hobby. I don’t judge people who spend their time pinning recipes they’ll never make or crafts they’ll never sew. I think she pushed up against something important (that younger generations may begin thinking the wedding is more important than the groom, or that some brides do now), but then she spent the majority of the article bashing normal people who just happen to like weddings.
Got on a bit of a rant there! But anyway…I think the article might’ve had a point, but it got lost in its own narcissism.
Post # 5
I completely agree with the article.
Post # 6
I think the article, while brazen and harsh, makes a pretty valid point…after all, how can one day really live up to such hyperbolic expectations?
Post # 7
@xskittles: I agree weddings have become a bit insane lately, and it is a bit silly to plan every last detail when you’re not even in a relationship, but then again… to each their own. It isn’t hurting anyone if you have a bit of a wedding obsession IMO.
i think building the one day up in your mind like the article mentions can be pretty bad… like when it’s over, now what? It is just ONE day… so this could be potentially psychologically damaging since it’s over in a flash, but I think most ladies are able to handle it ok in the end.
Post # 8
@xskittles: I think the article is fine. I think that your fiance’s friend posting to your wall is not only needlessly ballsy, but rude as well.
Maybe you should post an article to his wall in retaliation. ^_^ How’s this look?
Post # 9
@Asia: Ahahahahaha!!! Love it.
Post # 10
I think the article has a point and I agree with it. I don’t think the number of non-engaged members of weddingbee means that much though. I’m not engaged yet, but found weddingbee when googling Amora and moissanite. I’m not yet planning my wedding, but will be getting engaged in the near-feature. I joined because the community seemed interesting and I mainly read the NWR boards, but occasionally venture out to the other boards.
Post # 11
Owens is a basketcase first of all. That being said, I think there’s other valid reasons people who are not yet engaged join the Bee. There are other boards, too.
Post # 12
@Asia: hahaha! this cracked me up! thank you 🙂
Post # 13
While wedding planning shouldn’t take over your life, it is, in fact, a hobby for some!
I never really planned my wedding before meeting my FI (except for the occasional pinterest find you just can’t pass up). Weddings are interesting and fun to plan (especially for super organized people who enjoy that kind of stuff).
Basically, I think it’s fine as long as you don’t go all bridezilla.
Post # 14
I’m a waiting bee and I was offended by the article. I mostly stick to the NWR board and the ring board- thats not crazy or obsessing about walking down the aisle. SO and are ring shopping but it is a crime to join an anonymous website about waiting to get engaged? I love all the support from fellow waiting bees during this awkward period of transition. And these ladies are amazing- most stress the importance of the marriage over the wedding. I think this article doesn’t portray WB accurately.
Post # 15
Quite rude of her to post that on your Facebook wall but about the article itself, no respectable writer/journalist would use “We should be judgmental here because this shit is a massive waste of time.” in an article. She simply sounds bitter about her own marriage indiscresions. The last paragraph however makes it quite clear that the article is indeed written by a bitter woman. I am one of the Bees that is not currently engaged, although I do have Nerd. I would have liked to have the author to have come onto the Bee and asked us waiting bees for our opinions and not just assume things about us. It’s just rude and inconsiderate.
Post # 16
@xskittles: I sadly agree with PARTS of the article but I don’t think the idea is new to anyone around here.
ETA: You know that bia has a private pinterest board.
With your SO’s friend, I’d rebuttle this: