Post # 1
So when FH and I got engaged, we decided to have a VERY small wedding, inviting only our family and closest friends, both to save money and to help reduce my anxiety. It was very easy to make those cuts, though, because there are many friends I simply haven’t spoken to in a long time.
SUDDENLY in the last 4-6 months, it’s like EVERY person I have EVER known is coming out of the woodwork and wanting to chat again. Random friends I haven’t talked to in five or six years are messaging me wanting to reconnect! Which is cool and all, but now I feel bad that I’m not inviting them all… and of course they all have live-in bfs/gfs who I’d have to invite if I wanted to invite them and the budget very tight and pretty high cost per person.
I really am happy to hear from people, but why now, when I have to feel guilty about it!?
Post # 3
@Bebealways: oh man, this happened to me! I was touched to hear from some people, but so many of them either implied or blatantly stated that they were expecting an invtation – I felt guilty and invited a bunch of them. Of course I had no choice but to extend plus ones, and now I have about a half a dozen total strangers coming to my wedding. I’m happy for my old friends, but I never in a million years expected to see them at my wedding, much less their SOs completely unknown to me. I know I may get torn apart for not being happy/gracious that people want to celebrate with me, but frankly it’s been a pain! At least that’s my experience. Hope it turns out better for you and you get whatever you prefer.
Post # 4
I can only imagine. I coincidentally didn’t join FB until ten months after my wedding. Although I have absolutely LOVED reconnecting with so many of my old friends, I have no idea what impact these reconnections may have had on my guest list if they had occurred pior to my wedding.
Post # 5
@LilDrAnya: No one has been gauche enough to drop enough of a hint that I’d pick it up so far… so I’ve quietly been not mentioning the wedding at all. x_x
I do have a B list but it’s mostly for plus ones that don’t fit the “married/engaged/living together” rule. But who knows at this point.
Post # 6
@Bebealways: Lol, because that’s just the way life works. Always seems like you’re a day late & a dollar short my friend.
Maybe later on you could plan a casual part where you can invite more people. Something on the cheap like a barbecue, hotdog/smores roast & share video or slideshow of your wedding and reception with all the ppl you couldn’t afford to invite.
Money woes are nothing new, people get it. 😉