- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
So, here’s my rant. Marriage is in three weeks. I am fairly calm about the whole thing, but only because I have been doing some serious meditation and continual affirmations, otherwise I would be a nervous wreck.
My feeling is this: my wedding is about marrying the man I love. Yes, I want to put on a kick-ass party, and yes I want people to be well-fed, well-drunk, well-danced, and wowed by the decor. But if things go wrong, and I know they will, I will be okay with it. Flowers didn’t show up? Okay, who needs ’em. Cake looks/tastes like a big crap sandwich? Oh well, go to the bar and make up for it with another glass of wine on us.
Enter my mother, my future MIL, my workmates, and especially lately my irritating as heck MOH, all of whom have done their best to make the last 9 months of my life as awful and as stressful as possible. My MOH actually told me the other night that I wasn’t taking this seriously enough, and she’s so nervous about my big day. I’m like, “I’m not nervous, so you can’t be either. Or if you are, keep it to yourself chica!” My mother – hoo boy! It does not matter if I have already spent half of my work day blowing off work in favor of getting wedding stuff done, I am never doing enough. Nor does it matter that I personally find it ridiculous to dedicate this much time to a day that I am told will be over before I know it, and leave me wondering what I just did with the past year of my life, when I should have enjoyed being engaged. I am already a bit resentful of this, as you may be able to tell.
Anyhoo, that is my rant. It doesn’t seem to matter to any of these crazy women when I tell them how hard I am trying to maintain a proper attitude and that their inability to chill out is ruining it all for me. It doesn’t matter when I tell them they are sucking all of the fun out of this process. Frankly, I am thinking for my own sanity to just avoid all of them for the next three weeks, but I worry that on the day of my wedding they will screw that up for me too.
When none of them listen to reason, what am I supposed to do? Besides wish I had listened to all of those who told me my best bet was to get married on an island far away …