Post # 1
I work for a small company. Literally 7 people work there and three of them are related. Two are about to celebrate a big wedding anniversary, their son just got married, and their daughter (who doesn’t work there) is about to move in with her boyfriend.
There is no escape….I have the married two either arguing, or telling me all about their anniversary plans, the Mum shoving her son’s wedding photos under my nose, the Dad taking the mickey out of his son because he’s ‘under the thumb’ and they’re all telling me about their youngest daughter’s house hunting.
We all work in the same, open plan office, so there is NO escape from these people. It makes me feel a bit pethetic, and sad, and I leave work resenting the boy because we still don’t even live together. Not that I don’t like the people I work with, or want to see their wedding photos/be happy for them about their anniversary, but it’s all just making me feel sh..awful.
I guess I’m just needing a vent.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
Aww, I’m sorry you are feeling this way. Have you and your bf had a serious conversation about the next step in your relationship?
Post # 4
Hello to you ruby-glitters there in the UK!
I know where you are coming from… being happy for someone else is very hard to do when they are getting/have got the same thing you want so badly. It’s hard to be happy for them, but at the same time you feel selfish for only thinking of yourself! I also understand feeling resentment towards your SO because he isn’t moving as quickly as you’d like. It is hard to deal with, but there’s really only 2 ways you can go about it: 1) Try to forget about it by distracting yourself and using your time to work on other things (like, you!) until he comes around 2) Bring it up to him and see how the conversation progresses, so at least you will know if he has some kind of a timeline in mind, or if you are on the same page.
I tried both ways. I tried #1 till I could stand it no more, then went with #2 lol.
Post # 5
Im so sorry.. i can’t imagine being in this situation. I with mouse have you guys spoken about “future” plans?
Post # 6
Thanks for the support. 🙂
I know we’re on the same page, it’s just not necessarily the page with a wedding on. We spent some time talking about the timeline – he understands that if there are babies happening, he has a maximum of 9 years to get his act in gear – and do all the things we want to do before we become parents, including get married. We’ve been considering a piece of land to build our house on, and he mentioned planning the wedding whilst we were building (my reaction may have put the proposal back several years because the phrase “are you crazy?!?” just sort of slipped out. oops!) Realistically, I suspect the proposal will come sometime towards the end of next year.
It’s really just the people here at work constantly going on and on about it that’s making me feel bad.