Post # 1
Ok bees, so this is my first (semi) rant on the board,
I got engaged a few months ago – I never actually wrote a proposal post for some reason, I think I was too wrapped up in it all and got distracted! but it was indeed an incredible, dream come true moment and everything since has been wonderful!
I was lucky enough to be proposed to with an incredible cushion cut diamond ring 2carat total weight with diamond halo and band, it is my dream ring and my FI did an amazing job I absolutely love it! It’s sparkly and beautiful and just perfection.
So here’s the thing, I continously get very kind and wonderful comments on my ring which is so lovely and a credit to my FI, he spent a tonne of money on it and deserves to be praised! I also love to see people’s reactions but what I DONT like is how many people touch the actual centre diamond! It astounds me! i’m all for people looking and even trying it on, that’s fine! But keep your greasy fingerprints off my diamond thank you!
I just feel like people (especially those I barely know) should be a little more respectful of something that is a) extremely precious and sentimental and b) is clearly very valuable! As I said, I have no qualms with people asking questions about it, trying it on, taking photos to show their jeweller etc but out of respect, please handle my ring carefully!
End rant 🙂 xx
Post # 3
That’s odd. I’ve never had anyone reach out and touch my ring or anything else of mine for that matter. Personal space!! But either way, touching it isn’t exactly going to hurt the ring or anything, and it’s getting dusty and dirty all the same on its own anyways so I dont think it’s really that big a deal. If you don’t like it though, just pull your hand away if you see it coming and people will probably take a hint.
Post # 4
That is so strange! I’ve never had someone try to touch my ring (although my center stone is quite a bit smaller so that may have something to do with it?). I’ve had people grab my hand and kind if turn it so they can look at the ring profile. Also, you’re nicer than I am- I hate it when people ask to try mine on!
Post # 5
@Miss_E_xx: Simple solution: don’t let them handle it. Or get your hand close enough for someone to even feel invited to touch. Also, I would never take it off to show someone…that seems kind of odd to me, and even odder for someone to ask unless they’re some kind of jeweler. Just tell them it’s snug and diffifult to get on or off.
Or just smile and politely hold your hand out…it’s all about body language. Most people will get the hint.
Post # 6
I’ve had a couple people do that! But I worked in infant care when I got engaged, so greasy fingers was the very least of the gross stuff that got on my ring!
Post # 7
@Miss_E_xx: lets see the ring!!!
Post # 8
People do the same exact thing to me… I just ignore it. It’s really not that big of a deal & I like the attention 😛
Post # 9
This is one of my biggest pet peeves! When we first got engaged people obviously wanted to see my ring, and I can’t tell you how many people touched my center stone. It drove me nuts! My center stone is loose and I swear it’s from everyone touching it. Lol. I don’t get it, it’s not like it’s soft and fluffy!
Post # 10
@DaisyBelle: People will literally reach over into my “personal bubble” to touch my centerstone, so I don’t really think it’s always about the messages the ring wearer is sending.
Post # 11
@MrsSkeletonKey: Wow! I’d be floored if someone did that. I would lean waaay back and say something about having a cold.
Man, people can be pushy, huh??!
Post # 12
@Miss_E_xx: interesting, but nothing to get too worked up about. You can easily and safely wash it in some warm soapy water (I use blue dawn soap and a squirt of windex) and a soft toothbrush. It actually looks better after that then when I get it cleaned at the jeweler – and they always comment there how clean my ring looks!
I definitely understand wanting to keep it pristine once you first get it, but trust me it will get grimy on its own with stuck on soap residue, etc. Don’t sweat the small stuff!
Post # 13
@DaisyBelle: Yes, they sure can!
To be fair though, my centerstone is a 3ct moissy & it’s an OEC, so I think it catches peoples attention since it’s pretty unique. Oddly enoughly, I also think people feel the need to touch it because the centerstone is kind of “bubbly” (for lack of a better term) since it’s an antique cut, and I think that makes people want to feel it because it isn’t flat on top like almost every other diamond or moissy people are used to seeing. I’m just going off of what one of my fellow interns said when she reached into my personal space to put her finger prints all over it lol
Here’s a pic of what I mean by bubbly & not flat:
Post # 14
@MrsSkeletonKey: Ha! Bubbly! Very descriptive. I kind of instantly knew what you meant when you said you had an OEC.
This whoooole thread is why I wash my hands frequently! People are crazy sometimes.
Post # 15
@Miss_E_xx: That is so weird… I would NEVER think to touch someone’s engagement ring, especially without asking! I would just stop letting anyone handle it…just say something like “it’s nothing personal, I don’t let ANYONE touch it! lol”
Post # 16
That’s weird. Like, very strange weird.
Maybe you can grab their hand and touch something of theirs when they do that?
Like, “Oh, I love your earrings” *touchtouchtouch*