(Closed) Storing Gifts or Using Them Right Away?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Did you/are you planning to store your gifts away or use them as you receive them?
    We chose/will choose to save everything until we're married. : (5 votes)
    42 %
    The gifts are yours to use -- we will use them as we receive them. : (7 votes)
    58 %
    Other (please comment below). : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Once the gift is given it is yours to do what you wish.  As we received gifts before our wedding we stored them in an empty room in our house (we were lucky to have the space) until after the wedding.  We did this for a couple of reasons:

    1.  I just didn’t have time to go through my kitchen and get rid of old things to make room for new.

    2.  We wanted to make sure we truly wanted everything before we started using it.  We did make several exchanges after the wedding.

    If you want to start using thing right away, by all means, do it!

    Post # 4
    Member
    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Traditionally you do not use wedding gifts until you get married- for a simple reason: In case you call off the wedding, you are supposed to send each gift back unused to the giver.

    Post # 5
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    3222 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @SnowflakeDS: I don’t think that people would expect you to send back gifts…

    I am definitely using our gifts. We’re leaving the ‘fancy stuff’ (china and special flatware, etc) for when we have more storage for them, but I’ve used our new Keurig every morning since we got it, as well as our new casual flatware.

    I say use your gifts!!

    Post # 6
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    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @napabridekelsey: Traditional etiquette wisdom can stick around a lot longer than what people will actually do.

    Just for reference, Wedding Planning for Dummies states that gifts have to be returned unused if the wedding is cancelled. About.com, too. Current attitudes on whether to use or not use gifts before the wedding are divided, see this Bee discussion.

    Post # 7
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    10563 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I left all my shower gifts at my parent’s and didn’t use any of the wedding gifts we got early until after the wedding.

    I didn’t have an engagement party, and haven’t heard of many who have had them here.  I’m not sure if the same rule applies, don’t you usually just get wine, flowers, etc. for those?  I say go ahead and drink some wine while figuring out the wording for your invitations or doing other planning!

    Post # 8
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    4824 posts
    Honey bee

    There was no way I wasnt going to use my new kitchen stuff that I received at my showers!

    I think if its an engagement gift its to celebrate the engagement, if its a shower gift its a gift to the bride to shower her at that moment, if its an early wedding present, then that I might wait (well depending what it is)Embarassed

    Post # 9
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    We used ours right away. We had all my hubby’s old mismatched crap from college, he barely had any kitchen stuff (I stupidly donated all mine before I moved in), and I was just too excited. I know lots of people don’t want to jinx things, but we got married, we’ve been married for over a year, and we’re still very happy.

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