Strange behavior!

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

Kacey23:  If it’s out of his character, then yes, it would worry me. When you bring it up, try not to hound him about it. Let him know that you’re worried, and you’ll be there to listen when he’s ready to talk.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016 - Rosewater Room

That would drive me nuts!! Not only is it rude to stand you up but to not give any kind of explanation is just plain suspicious.

I’d make it clear that you were really worried when he didn’t show up but now that you know he was okay, you’re upset/annoyed/angry that he didnt give you any explanation and he owes you one. If he says he doesn’t, ask him how he’d feel if the situation were reversed, if he couldn’t get a hold of you and had no idea where you were or if you were okay.

Try to be honest and tell him how you feel, hopefully he’ll see its bothering you and be honest with you! Good luck!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

You will just have to strait out ask him where he was! It’s pretty strange and rude of him to stand you up and give no explanation at all, especially if it’s out of character. Maybe his friends know where he could have been. Hopefully he’s not in any kind of trouble .

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I would have brought it up tonight haha!  I guess tomorrow I would just casually mention that you were worried about him last night & you were just wondering if something had happened or whatever. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Um if he didnt offer any explanation, why didnt you ask for one? And I also would have brought it up then and there and not wait til the next day. That is rude and unacceptable behavior

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve never had to deal with this, but if my SO made me wait one hour at a restaurant, didn’t call to give me a heads up that he was going to be late, eventually stood me up entirely, didn’t answer his phone, then had the gall to ask me to come by his apartment rather than him coming by my place, he would owe me a lot more than an apology. He would owe me an explanation!

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Stevens Estate

Kacey23:  don’t let him just drop it…demand an explanation. Trust your instincts…if something seems off your prob right

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Keep us updated! 

Post # 11
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Newbee

possibly left of field but are you expecting an imminent proposal? could he have chickened out or was this not a special meal? otherwise, as the other bees have said, i’d want a damn good explanation

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I’d be livid.  In 10 yrs, my dh has never done anything like that.  I think you definitely need to get to the bottom of it.  If nothing else, it was the height of rudeness.  Hell, I’m mad for you.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I would be furious, you deserve a full explanation.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

I’d be worried, but as to whether you should push him to give you more information, frankly, I think it depends on how long you’ve been together. 

To use extreme examples, I would be rather irritated if my SO of a couple months was pestering me about every second of my whereabouts (especially if I had apologized and already explained that I was tired), whereas it’d be kind of expected if my SO of 5 years wanted to know what was up. 

But then again, I’m super independent by nature and always advocate for both people in a relationship not having to account to one another for absolutely everything. If the trust is there, and this isn’t a thing that’s been repeatedly happening (to make it suspicious), I’d let it go.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think there’s a big difference between not knowing where your SO is every minute to being flat out stood up with no explanation.

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