Post # 1
Hey, I was looking for some advice from Canadian/American ladies. I’m canadian and my fiance is Australian. I’ve been here for almost 6 years and all of our mutual friends are from here. Of course I have friends and family at home as well, but in terms of numbers it makes way more sense for us to do it here. My family has no issue traveling here, and hello, its australia! talk about amazing wedding spots by the truckfull. We’ve actually decided to possibly do the wedding in New Zealand, at a lovely winery overlooking Auckland harbour.
My questions are:
1. How do you politely and tactfully enquire from friends and non-immediate family whether they’d be willing to make the trip over here?
2. As an american/canadian, how close would you have to be to someone to consider traveling so far for a wedding? Immediate family/best friend? close friend? Would you take the opportunity to make it a vacation? Be brutally honest..i realise alot of people probably won’t come..but what would you do?
Thanks! I’m loving weddingbee already 🙂
Post # 3
we both have always wanted to go to australia.. soo if we were invited to a desti wedding we would do everything in our power to go, however it is THOUSANDS to get us both there PLUS that is a once in a lifetime trip so it would also mean AT LEAST a week off from work. We def would not write it off right away, we would try our hardest, but we do love to travel and put that us a priority, not everyone we know is like that!
Post # 4
For a destination like Australia or New Zealand I would wish to be on your guest list (as a best friend or acquaintance). But, advance notice is the best indicator of whether I can make it or not.
Sending out a Save the Date card will get people talking about the wedding and the trip. It will also prompt them to begin saving if they intend on going. My best friend lives in Southeast Asia. She is my Maid/Matron of Honor and she is coming out for the wedding. I got engaged last May and she has just under a year to save for the trip.
I also have long-time friends from high school who vacation in the U.S. yearly, usually during the fall/winter (they also live in Southeast Asia). They were willing to push back this year’s vacation to Spring of next year to make it to my wedding. =)
Post # 5
It would be a financial impossibility for us right now, no matter who was getting married. But we’re a single income couple right now, since I can’t seem to find a job. 🙁
If finances weren’t SUCH a concern, I would say immediate family (probably not including most cousins) or a very good mutual friend. If it was one of my good friends who he didn’t know (or didn’t know well), probably I would end up going and he would stay home. Same goes in reverse. 🙂
We love to travel, but destination weddings can be tough because of scheduling (my Fiance teaches, so we’re tied to a school calendar) and whether or not the money is there when it needs to be.
Post # 6
I actually have been in this situation. My friend from college met an australian girl, moved there and plans to get married there. They are getting married in 2011, but sent a facebook message last year to friends and i guess whatever family was on there as an fyi, would you come sorta thing. To be honest, when he sent it, we had every intention of trying to go bc we love to travel, and it is guaranteed to be fun, but in the end, Boyfriend or Best Friend and I moved to manhattan, spent a lot of money on friends wedding this year, and now we are starting to try and save for our own wedding/future, so I doubt we would have the few thousand dollars we would need to get there.
However, I just had some German relatives who were just here and announced that they were getting married in April, and we have every intention of trying to make it.
I really think for me, it has to do with personal relationships. I am closer to my german relatives than my friend, so its more motivation to go. I went to hawaii to help my best friend pick out her wedding dress, and would have absolutely gone wherever when she got married.
Maybe meet in the middle and have a Destination Wedding in hawaii?
Post # 7
I would if it was a close friend and/or if we hadn’t seen a bunch of those friends in a while ie. it would be a mini reunion. I’d check out for sure on hotel blocks for discounts to entice people.
Post # 8
Immediate family, like if DH’s sister got married over there, we’d have to go and make it work. I love my besties, but I don’t necessarily have thousands of dollars to spend on their wedding. I’d send a nice gift instead.
I wouldn’t use it as a vacation because, uh, I don’t really have a desire to go to New Zealand as a vacation!! Personally
Post # 9
As long as we had enough notice we would prob go. Like 9+ month to save & take time off work!
Post # 10
I’m a Yank who will be marrying an Aussie in Australia, so I can understand where you’re coming from. I only expect my mother to make the trip. If anyone else does, we will be very pleasantly surprised. Neither of us expect any of our American friends to attend, but happily, a couple of them are considering making vacations out of it. Even more surprisingly, two of my mother’s friends are considering attending as well. I’m hopeful, but realistically, it’s a pretty huge commitment.
I just informally let people know in regular conversation that we’d be having the wedding in Australia–I wanted them to know that we would love to have them attend, but considering the distance, we understood completely that it might not be possible. No one was offended in any way. I’ll be sending save the dates as a follow up, so anyone who does wish to attend will have time to make plans.
We do plan to have a big informal party here in the States, so that we can celebrate with everyone who won’t be able to make the trip.